Poll: Ppl you dont want to invite but have to

JillianLL · September 2009

Mine would be my cousins! Two sisters who drive me insane with their better than thou attitudes. Sorry for the vent and family bashing but I have never been close with them, we have NOTHING in common, and they are one uppers who always feel like they have something to prove.I wish I didnt have to waste money on them and didnt have to invite them to the wedding, but alas they are first cousins.Am I the only one feeling this way?

cinthia122 · September 2009

LOL Jillian so funny!I would not invite a couple of people from my dad's side of the family. I'm not close to them and haven't seen them since I was like 8 so what's the point?

zobo410 · September 2009

Uh no, not the only one. My little brother's g/f/fiance (whatever they want to call her) who I don't like. My dad and step-mom invited her parents. Ummm helloo... I don't even want her there why would I want her parents? So the only upside I see to this... they will keep her occupied and she won't be hanging all over my brother who is a groomsman when he is doing pics etc. Blehh!

TtotheG · September 2009

My in laws. :x

YHFoxtrot · September 2009

Honestly pretty much no one. With the exception of a friend who I wasn't sure I wanted there because of some things that happened in the past but I figured if I didn't invite her, it might cause drama.Everyone else, I'm happy to have there!! I think?

lilbit255 · September 2009

You are definitely not the only one feeling this way! I wish I didn't have to invite a lot of FI's family...he sees them like once a year, however he didn't think it was fair not to invite them just because his dad has passed. I don't mind his aunts and uncles but they all have so many kids that they take up 35 people on my 77 person guest list!

courtneybrooke921 · September 2009

(I just wrote a huge response and it got deleted, grrr)You are NOT alone!!I'm fairly happy with our list but wish it was cut in half. I'd be happier with 100 guests versus 200+ guests. If we invite 271 and 100 show up I'll be ecstatic. lol

jennej24 · September 2009

You aren't alone, but I don't think there is anyone on my list that I don't really want there. Thanks to FI keeping me in check about that. He wouldn't let me add people to the list that we weren't close with. I guess and also thanks to my mom and his parents, neither one has asked us to add someone to the list.

eagles.fan1234 · September 2009

I invited all my aunts and uncles to be "fair". There are two or three of them that I would be okay with not attending....

tshura · September 2009

You are not alone - I feel the same way about some ppl that I just have to invite ...If not the family would be mad at us - I just don't understand or see the point!

avmn10 · September 2009

LOL TESS!!!! No, you are not alone. My FI has a big extented family. We like some of his cousins, but could care less if others come. We can't not invite them, and invite other cousins, so I totally understand! We're hoping they don't come

citytoshore09 · September 2009

My friend's girlfriend - the date of my MOH (still pissed about that) - the Florida friend out of obligation (the crazy one) - my dad's brother/cousin and their families (we've never gotten along!)... bleh. Girl, I feel you hardcore.

rclnd83 · September 2009

AAAAAAAAAAAAARRRRRRRRRRRGGGGHHHH!The People I dont want to invite......Half of my aunts, their children (all over 21) and their signif. others that they've been dating for more than 2 years.That's 6 people you do the math. ANd some other family that I barely talk to."Just because we're related doesnt mean I want you there. The last time I saw you, I was 7! "GGOOOOSSSSHH JJJJEEEEZZZ!VENT overI like the poll Jilli

rclnd83 · September 2009

and people from my dad side. I dont get along with them to well.

avee10 · September 2009

my older cousins who I havent seen or spoken to in years. They are both OOT so I'm hoping they wont come!

avee10 · September 2009

oh and I forgot to add that one of them got married when I was 21 and invited my parents and not me because she said it was an "adult only" wedding.

goldie3474 · September 2009

I have a crazy drunk aunt and a cousin who is a snatch. I dont want either there but my dad says it's rude. Hiss. I think THEY are rude. It's still a debate.

SaraandBenjamin · September 2009

LOL TESSJillian...I HATE one uppers!!! So obnoxious and then they make you paranoid about everything!GRR!I could go without some aunts and uncles, but our wedding is pretty small anyway.

Kitty315 · September 2009

My 4 year old goddaughter.. and my godparent's daughter & husband. I invite those two cousins so they can keep an eye on my godparents who are older and in denial. You know.. make sure they make it there and don't trip and fall. =\Other than that I'm not inviting people I don't want there. Half of my family isn't invited.. and we're not inviting friends because we can't pick and chose between siblings and such. Heaven forbid John Doe's brother just shows up uninvited and brings his nasty flavor of the week (or month.. or season) who never even says hi to me. I'm sorry you have to invite people you don't want there on your wedding day. I might be investing in a stun gun soon if you'd like me to come and play the role of security.

PinkShoesGal · September 2009

I did not want to send STDs to the entire side of my Dad's fam because they have been nothing but hateful toward him. But I sent them anyway to play nice. They have verbally said they are not planning on making the trip. Yay! I know it goes against proper etiquette but I am not sending them a formal invite now. I never wanted any of them to come in the first place but figured I would try to play nice.

millenia98 · September 2009

Blech. I have a pretty small family and I allowed some people to be invited. I think I allowed my Stepdad his two friends, who I don't even know. Aside from that, I invited my cousins, who I haven't seen in over 5 years. All of this is okay because I have been good about choosing who I really want there. I can't afford for estranged family to be there, so I was good about it. Eh, there may be 1 or 2 that I can part ways with but my list isn't overflowing so I don't mind so much. I have about 85 guests and I allowed all of their kids to come, too. I'm sure I won't have 100% attendance. I'm not sure anyone has 100%

allik1981 · September 2009

you are definitely not the only one. I have this friend who used to be one of my best friends but basically when my FI and I moved in together she got really weird and started acting like a completely different person. For some crazy reason she still thinks she is going to be in my bridal party eventhough I'm pretty sure I made it clear that she wasn't going to be. If it wouldn't cause complete drama within that whole group of friends, I wouldn't invite her at all. Wow that feels good to say!

JillianLL · September 2009

It does feel good to get it off your chest right? Irene, I may have to take you up on that stun gun offer...the two sisters who I was referring to pale in comparison to how much I dislike their father! Thank G he is not blood related!

RU3234 · September 2009

Haha..I dont want my dads side of the family to come...so Im not inviting them. He doesnt pay for it, he doesnt get a say. I told my fis sis if she wants a date she can pay us $120 plus a wedding gift. LolThis is the only thing I have been Bridezilla about!

jssoto82 · September 2009

Hell no... u are definitely NOT the only one feeling that I am paying for people that are "family" or FMIL's friends that I dont even know. FIs fam is extremely large. FMIL has 18 bros and sisters. Yes... u read it correctly. And FFIL has 9. This results in over 100 first cousins. This is not counting any other fam ( parents cousins, 2nd cousins. Etc). My opinion is... if u haven't seen or spoken to this family in over a year or in some cases years... why shld they be invited?? FI and FMIL don't feel the same way.... ugh

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