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Engagement Announcement Question?

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My BF and I just got engaged and we are planning on getting married in 2 years, but I wanted to send out engagement announcements to let all extended family and friends know about the engagement. However my dilemma is this: We do not know where the wedding is going to be yet meaning which state, his family is from Illinois and mine is from the New England area and there is also the possibility of a destination wedding meaning small and simple. So I ask you all is it okay to send out an engagement announcement to all extended family and friends although there is a possibility that all or some will not be invited to the wedding?I just want all the people in my family and my friends to get a little announcement in the mail with our picture on it stating the good news. I want everyone's opinion on this please.
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  • AcrosthecAcrosthec
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    I've received 1 wedding announcement.  The couple didn't have a venue or even a date when they sent it.  It just said:Congratulations to  [Bride & Groom]on their engagement.Planning a Fall 2010 wedding.Since that time, we know where they are getting married and the date is actually for Summer 2010.  We know this because they also sent us a STD.  I think it would be strange and borderline rude to send announcements to people that you don't intend to invite to the wedding.  I understand wanting to share your good news, but most people that you send things to are going to expect to be invited, and you may have a lot of hurt feelings to deal with if you decide not to invite all of them.  I'd think long and hard about it before I sent them out.
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  • tmwagnertmwagner
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    Only send to those you know you will be inviting for sure. Just like an engagment party, if you invite them to that they should be invited to the wedding.
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  • noelle24noelle24
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    Because anouncements arent' done in my circle, if I got one, I would assume that I was invited.  Then I would probably be upset if I didn't get an invite.  So, if I were you, I'd only send announcements to people you know you want to invite and just call the rest of your friends and family.  Plus, if you were planning on sending out STD's anyway to some of the same people, it might get a little redundant.  And hey, it will save you some money too.
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  • username2010username2010 member
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    Send away! Please only send to people you know 100% are going to get an invite to the actual wedding though.
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    It's poor etquette to send engagement announcements.Why not just put the normal announcement in your local paper and send save the dates.  Someone may give you an engagement party, parents usually, never host your own.
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  • onefishtwofishonefishtwofish member
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    Normally, announcements are sent after the wedding.  And ditto PP, anyone who receives one will likely assume that they will be invited to the wedding.  If that is the case, I don't see the harm.   No need to know exact dates or locations until a little closer.
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    Do your parents send out a letter with their Christmas cards, updating people on family news? They could always mention that they are very proud that their daughter will be getting married, blah blah blah. But I'd skip the formal "engagement ennouncement" for now. Just a newspaper announcement. Heck, I'm not doing engagement announcements period! Saves money. :-D
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