Grandparent health

Night_Sprite · September 2009

So we're less than five months out from the wedding. My grandfather is 82, has had multiple strokes, a valve replacement on his heart, and several other medical issues in the last 15-20 years. Most recently he is having calcium stones in his bladder and not really recovering. He's my only grandpa and all the time he has right now is really a gift and I know that. I'm not ready for my grandpa to die. It could very well happen before the wedding and for some reason that just makes it worse.

ricksang · September 2009

Awww ((((hugs)))). I am very close to my grandfather and he is 81. I understand.

bbyckes · September 2009

What little consolation I can give is to just cherish the time you have with him now and not think about what could be or what might happen.Night, if he does not make it to your wedding day or beyond he will always be there with you in spirit. My grandfather died over 20 years ago, I swear I still feel his arms around me some nights. He won't be gone.

squirrly · September 2009

My grandfather died in May, just a few weeks before our engagement was official. He was 93. Our wedding will actually be on the one year anniversary of his funeral. I wasn't ready either. When I was a kid, and I'd have an argument with my dad, the family joke was that my grandfather (maternal) would walk me down the aisle. Now I've got no backup plan!

Just enjoy the time you DO have with him, and know that whatever happens, he'll be there with you that day. I know my grandfather will.

Night_Sprite · September 2009

FI and I are also 8 hours away, so even if we knew something was happening, we probably couldn't go. It sucks.

tlv204 · September 2009

I'm sorry

My grandmother couldn't come to our wedding because of her failing health, and that was the hardest part about wedding planning. I'm not ready either, I don't know if anyone is really ready. Just remember how much he loves you and make sure he knows you love him too.

mocha beans · September 2009

:-( I'm sorry. Enjoy the time you have, if he doesn't make it to the wedding, he'll be watching you still.FI's grandmother just died last week. Our original date was 9/12, she died on 9/13. If we wouldn't have pushed it back she would have seen us get married. I think part of FI is really bothered by that, but won't say it. He was pretty close to her.

squirrly · September 2009

Once things got really bad with my grandfather, I didn't go visit much. I saw him two weeks before, but mostly I just called. My mom talked to him about it and he said he understood. . . He was 6'2", and down to about 80 or 90 pounds. I didn't want to remember him that way. My sister went and sort of wishes she hadn't. Being there won't change things for him, but it might for you. If that's important to you, find a way to get there. If not - just call and remember him the way makes you happiest.

mandysmear · September 2009

I was never close to my grandparents. In some ways I see that as a blessing. I wasn't that upset when any of them died. I'm so sorry to hear that. I really don't know how you feel, but I am still really sorry for the stress and hurt you may be feeling.

vicmo5 · September 2009

Dude, this made me tear up. I wish you and your family the best.

katiewhompus · September 2009

Aw I'm sorry

I'll send some get well vibes your way.If enough knotties send vibes we can get him better for you!!I had way too much death surrounding my wedding day. I lost my final pet rat the day of the rehearsal dinner and my grandfather (who I wasn't close to and rather disliked) died the night of my wedding.

cdeshane · September 2009

I hope he stays well. I was really close to my grandparents, I used to live with them. My grandpa passed away a couple years ago. I was sad about it, but what made it worse was he got to see my sisters' children, and my step sisters' wedding and he would not be there for either of mine.

vallyhoo · September 2009

I absolutely know where you are coming from. My two surviving grandparents are both in failing health.I also recently lost my maternal grandmother. The only consolation was that she was able to see me and my FI finally get engaged. She also played a special part in the proposal.I hope that your grandfather makes it to your wedding, but regardless of how the next five months play out, just remember that you have enjoyed 23 years with him in your life.

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