Jeans at a wedding

FutureMrsThys · March 2010

Is there a nice way to request that your guests NOT wear jeans to the wedding. I don't want to offend anyone, but for some reason in the area i live in it has become "acceptable" to wear jeans to a wedding, even when held in a church.

LarissaAnn · March 2010

Wow... word of mouth or wedding website explaining that the venue has a dress code?

sucrets4 · March 2010

Nope. They'll be the ones looking like asssholes if they wear jeans, not you.

tlv204 · March 2010

Nope. In my world, there's always one person who wears jeans. A few people talk about that person behind their back, then people go on with their business. While it would be nice if everyone would dress appropriately for weddings and other more formal events, there's no way you can politely/appropriately tell them how to dress unless your venue actually has a dress code that must be followed.

sucrets4 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:6abf8c28-19f9-497b-803c-449b5bb957e4">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]Wow... word of mouth or wedding website explaining that the venue has a dress code?
Posted by LarissaAnn[/QUOTE]

It doesn't sound like the venue has a dress code.

shellydiane820 · March 2010

Its one of those things you just deal with. You can't control how guests dress.

mwhitson14 · March 2010

I can almost guarantee you that half of FI's side will show up to our wedding in jeans, and at this point, I couldn't care less.

eastunder1 · March 2010

Jeans at a wedding sucks. It's tacky and uncalled for. Unfortunately, there is no way to say so without being rude or implying that your guests don't know how to dress. You just have to mention its a nice place and hope they take the hint.

But really, if someone doesn't know already that jeans arent appropriate wedding attire, having it pointed out for them probably won't make a bit of difference. Some people just don't know or care how to dress for an occassion and thats just how it is.

mags0607 · March 2010

Ditto everyone else, you really can't dictate what your guests wear, and the only time I think guidelines are acceptable is if the venue or church sets a dress code that guests must adhere to in order to be admitted.

LarissaAnn · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:26874e27-0f89-46eb-85d7-dd2ce37c2a71">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jeans at a wedding : It doesn't sound like the venue has a dress code.
Posted by sucrets4[/QUOTE]
I was hoping either it did (the reception venue, if not the church, though I really feel that church should be denim-free if anyplace should!) or perhaps these people could be made to think it did. Y'know, pass the buck, blame it on the venue. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" /> No?

Nebb · March 2010

The husbands of two women I invited from my office wore jeans, and let me tell you, it absolutely ruined my entire wedding day. It was AWFUL, just awful.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

Nebb, were they cutoffs like these?

tlv204 · March 2010

EW.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

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[QUOTE]EW.
Posted by tlv204[/QUOTE]

Well, they're not usually worn with the speedo. That would be weird.

Nebb · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:32d5a750-6364-4701-82f2-45dd435a6979">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jeans at a wedding : Well, they're not usually worn with the speedo. That would be weird.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
You make me laugh, so much. I love you dearly.

Theirs were a little longer, and had pleats.

lpstl · March 2010

You could invite my grandmother, who not only believes jeans are "ghastly" on women, but also proclaimed she would personally kick out anyone who dared to wear jeans to my wedding. Thankfully, no one tested her.

brookelynpaisley · March 2010

Someone wore jeans to my wedding, and supposedly our marriage is null and void. We have to do it all over. This time, I'm demanding a cash bar and dollar dance.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:0c9eddf1-f311-402b-ac3f-653e5392096c">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jeans at a wedding : You make me laugh, so much. I love you dearly. Theirs were a little longer, and had pleats.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

<3 And dear lord, long pleated denim shorts? Those should be banned from any event.

Lpstl, ghastly is one of those words that isn't used as much as it should be anymore. Thank your grandma for me for bringing it back. :)

Nebb · March 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jeans at a wedding : <3 And dear lord, long pleated denim shorts? Those should be banned from any event.
Posted by beatlesgirl25[/QUOTE]
They needed to wear them, in order to take the attention away from their glorious mullets. Im not lying.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:9baebc70-d4b9-42cc-95b7-e3c7c740b005">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jeans at a wedding : They needed to wear them, in order to take the attention away from their glorious mullets. Im not lying.
Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]

Now I think that might actually, for once take attention away from a bride. If only for a moment. Yikes!

shellydiane820 · March 2010

I'm offended that you guys mock nevernudes. Its not a joke.

TheSaltyPeanut · March 2010

haha... my uncle wore a nice suit to the church then the second the ceremony was over he jumped into his cutoff jean shorts and a Harley Davidson t-shirt complete with flames along the bottom. FWIW he had a rat tail and a mullet.

The weird part is that all of the other guests were looking at me and H and judging US for his lack of appropriate dress. Clearly he was not the one who looked like the idiot... it was us. Awkward.

squirrly · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:453b0793-928f-4652-bac5-b7c34e5e0876">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]haha... my uncle wore a nice suit to the church then the second the ceremony was over he jumped into his cutoff jean shorts and a Harley Davidson t-shirt complete with flames along the bottom. FWIW he had a rat tail and a mullet. The weird part is that all of the other guests were looking at me and H and judging US for his lack of appropriate dress. Clearly he was not the one who looked like the idiot... it was us. Awkward.
Posted by TheSaltyPeanut[/QUOTE]

Huh? You actually had a guest walk up to you and tell you that your uncle's choice of clothing was your fault? Or, they just gave it a strange look and you FELT like they were judging you?

TheSaltyPeanut · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:92a47e05-2117-43ae-990b-2cb7f27fa19a">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Jeans at a wedding : Huh? You actually had a guest walk up to you and tell you that your uncle's choice of clothing was your fault? Or, they just gave it a strange look and you FELT like they were judging you?
Posted by squirrly[/QUOTE]

I was being sarcastic <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-wink.gif" border="0" alt="Wink" title="Wink" />

betrothed123 · March 2010

Meet Uncle Bob (face blurred to protect the innocent):
http://tinyurl.com/yl3x8v3
http://tinyurl.com/yzm6xvl

He bought that sweat suit the day before our semi-formal wedding just for us. Our venue did have a dress code, but you know what, they still let him in and he didn't ruin our wedding at all.

I can assure you that his attire was the least of our worries, though. Our guests didn't judge us for his attire or for the rude things he said. They judged the crap out of him.

beatlesgirl25 · March 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_jeans-wedding?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:a7431752-9db1-46e9-a409-940f6cf9b541Post:4aab612e-3bca-41c7-9ed2-d38056fe40cb">Re: Jeans at a wedding</a>:
[QUOTE]I'm offended that you guys mock nevernudes. Its not a joke.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

There are dozens of us. Dozens!

FutureMrsThys · March 2010

Thank-you for confirming what I was thinking, that there is nothing you can reallly do. I know it really doesn't matter what people wear, becuse the day is not about them, but what are some people thinking these days. I realize I live in a more rural area, but I like to think that we are not a bunch of hicks....although just becuase I'm not doesn't mean I should generalize. As for the venue.....they would all know better than to know there is a dress code....but I like the idea of telling them the venue has a dress code if it was a more "classy" place.

I did mention it on a wedding website, hopefully someone will visit. These people that wear the jeans are also the ones who don't know how to send a RSVP back.

FutureMrsThys · March 2010

I am glad to see in the civilized world that jeans are still not acceptable.

FutureMrsThys · March 2010

I really don't want to admit this but the venue has red and blue carpet on the walls.....red on one side and blue on the other.....i don't think they know the term dress code....its the american legion hall.

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