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michelle221
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When did you get your apartment?
in New Jersey
How far in advance did you start looking for your apartment or house? Did you move in before your wedding?
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Re: When did you get your apartment?
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He moved into the apartment I already lived in about two years before the wedding (after he got a job in the city ... before then he worked in the suburbs so it didn't make sense for him to live there). How far ahead you look depends on the area. Where we live, you basically can only look a month ahead of time because new inventory only comes on the market 30 days ahead of time. So looking even 5 weeks ahead of time gives you a somewhat limited inventory.
We had been looking for a house for almost a year before we bought ours.
It all just worked out that way... didn't really plan the timeline.
Being married is a real thriller!
We wanted to save money for the wedding and since we both lived at home we started looking about a month or two ago. We just signed our lease this weekend for a December 1st move in date which is 3 months prior to our wedding. We found a lot on Craigslist but most of the places did not want to talk to you unless you were about a month out. We had more luck in apartment buildings/complexs. Every area is different though and we are moving from Central NJ up to North Jersey which is much more populated. Good luck!!
I highly advise living together before marriage. For us (and I would think most people), it was a huge adjustment. Things are great now, but it was a shaky start, and was ugly at times. I couldn't imagine going through that the first 2 month of marriage. Work out the quirks before hand.....
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[QUOTE]. I couldn't imagine even getting engaged prior to living together - what if you hate each other once you move in?? Posted by kcullen37[/QUOTE]
I love when people say this. Nothing against your post. I dont judge others for moving in before marriage so as long as you're not judging me (which it doesn't seem like you are) I dont have an issue with the comments.
We've been dating 4+ years, I don't honestly believe that if you've dated long enough that things could DRAMATICALLY change so much once you do choose to move in. I spend enough time there to know he's messy, he farts, he burps, when i'm angry he wont leave me alone and it makes me want to hurt him, etc etc....
Everybody has different opinions and thats fine. I just cannot stand it when people tell me what i "have" to do. I know whats best for me, nobody else. Vice versa applies as well.
TRUST ME...living with each other day in and day out is a totally different experience, esp in a smaller apartment (hopefullly you will have at least 2 bedrooms).
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When the phrase out of people is "you have to live together before marriage" thats telling what to do. I've literally had people tell us it's wrong not to live together like flat out factual statement. I dont enjoy having to defend our decision.
I completely understand that it's a different experience living together and not being able to "escape" at times. I'm not questioning that at all. It's an "old school" decision on our end and we're excited about it.
I'm not gonna lie, it's really frustrating not living together. We've both talking about it a lot. Everytime we go "F this, lets do it" we talk even more and then go "Nah"