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PCTyler1995
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I DO NOT want more stuff!
I know I can't ask for $, but we're both around 30 and have a house full of stuff. I don't want to register for china and silver, because we're just not that fancy! 
I don't want stuff that we're just not going to use. We're a little older, so we're paying for most of wedding ourselves. What is the proper thing to do?!?!? We'd so much rather have money! What am I to do? HELP PLEASE!!!!
I don't want stuff that we're just not going to use. We're a little older, so we're paying for most of wedding ourselves. What is the proper thing to do?!?!? We'd so much rather have money! What am I to do? HELP PLEASE!!!! This discussion has been closed.
Re: I DO NOT want more stuff!
The idea of making a small registry is that some people really like to give physical gifts and will by you something, even if you didn't register. By registering you get to guide your guests towards items you might want/use. So, could you use an extra set of mathcing, fluffy towels? Or a blender that can actually break and crush ice?
You are most likely going to have guests that give you gifts and not cash anyways. as PP said at least have a SMALL registry for them to choose from. I didn't register for China or Silver either...there has to be things you could use an upgrade on...or even decor, linens, small appliances/furniture items.
Asking for cash outright is rude. No way to do that that isn't tacky.
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Thanks lady friend!
I'm sorry, but I never understand this view. DH and I are also in our 30's, already owned our own place before we were married and had a bunch of our own stuff. We were still able to find a ton of stuff that we wanted to upgrade - new sheet sets, pots & pans, dishes, silverware, towels, etc. I can't tell you how amazing our new bedding is! It's not necessarily about "more" stuff, just "better" stuff.
We spent less on or not at all on necessary or premium items like the really nice stand mixer, or the vacuum cleaner, etc.
Ex- I have a stand mixer, but it's cheaper and and it has limitations I wish it didn't. I would love to get the kitchen aid I've got on my registry. I'll be pleased as punch if a couple of people go in together and get it for us.
And it's not like ome of the items we're asking for upgrades on won't find a new home...my one niece would love if she could have my old stand mixer, because it's an upgrade for her.
But if you're well & truly decided on avoiding the upgrade route...then follow the advice of the ladies telling you to keep your registry small. That way guests will be more inclined to give cash and for those that feel uncomfortable doing that, they have some choices and ideas of the styles and looks you are comfortable with.