Anxiety Discussion

Re: Anxiety Discussion

• butterflyjumper1

  

  July 2012

  meditation, pranayama (breathing) exercises,  +  yoga are what get me through each day that's how I have been making it through the last 5 years of my life. Not sure if it would help anyone who hasn't practiced yoga before since starting new life practices can be stressful in and of itself.
  
  I think that just whenever you get stressed or anxiety filled, do something that you love that makes you happy. Whether it's going for a fun, baking something yummy, cuddling and watching a movie with your fiance, or something else, it will take your mind off of the bad stuff and get you into a better place mentally. 
  
  While meditation and visualization can be super helpful techniques, I am not sure if meditation and visualizing our wedding days would be our best option at this point, since that is what is stressing us out in the first place.   

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• LADY324

  

  July 2012 edited July 2012

  I had an aunt pass away suddenly from a stroke when I was in junior high.  It caused me to start getting panic attacks.  I had to start taking a generic form of xanax.  I couldn't play soccer that year because I was having heart palpitations.  It ended up all being b/c of my aunt passing and just dealing with a tragic loss.  I am thankful that it went away.  I have to say that I don't really have a lot of stress in my life so I am lucky. 
  
  The only thing that causes me anxiety right now is not knowing if my FI will have a job in september.  He is a teacher and did not get asked to go back to the school that he taught at this past year.  His first year of teaching was very stressful so right now I do have anxiety over what his job future will be.  Right now he works at a summer day camp until the 3rd week of august.  I deal with it by just trying not to think about it since I have no control over it.  In the past he has always had a job come september so I am just praying to god that something comes through for him. 
  
  If he doesn't get a job and he is at home collecting unemployment while I am working that will cause a lot of stress on our marriage. 
  
  EDIT just realized my post did not answer your question and I instead vented about what causes me anxiety

  

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• bridetobe71412

  

  July 2012

  I definitely used to have pretty bad anxiety and it happens from time to time in the same respect as you - I'm basically incapacitated and just cry. I don't find that discussing it helps - it just freaks me out more.
  
  I wish I had better advice on how to deal with it! I'm not looking forward to the week before the wedding because I have a feeling it's going to be really bad.

  

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• dawnleanna1

  

  July 2012

  Talking it out usually helps (doesn't make it go away completely) me. I usually talk to my mom or FI about it. Breathing also helps, but it seems to be just temporary relief to me. What I find really works best is distraction. Sometimes if FI and I are getting really stressed he will plan a night for us to go out without the kids and just let loose. And when that happens I really let loose lol. As far as the wedding day goes, I am not too worried about the day of I'm more worried about a freak out the night before and that I won't be able to sleep. I'll probably bring some Tylenol PM to the hotel. 

  

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• BmoreBride311 member

  

  July 2012

  I first started experiencing anxiety and panic attacks after I moved to the UK. It was a VERY difficult adjustment for me. I hated the ppl here and missed my friends and family non-stop. I started getting a lot of episodes where I would feel like someone was sitting on my chest. It freaked me out and made it feel even worse, of course.
  
  I have been much better lately. I think what has helped the most has been discovering things about London that are really wonderful and that I know I will eventually miss when I move away. That, and just focusing on keeping myself busy at work and with wedding stuff. I'm a little worried it will come back after the wedding, but I hope not.
  
  I'm prolly the only bride in history who uses wedding planning to alleviate stress, lol.

  

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• butterflyjumper1

  

  July 2012

  bmore, I actually think planning things helps with the anxiety. I start freaking out when I look at my list and worrying about what I have to do and etc., but when I actually sit down and accomplish something, it makes me feel better.  I guess when we start worrying about WR things, the best way to alleviate the anxiety is to take care of whatever it is you are worrying about.

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• BmoreBride311 member

  

  July 2012

  Yeah, I agree. Checking things off of a list is one of the best anxiety relievers in existance. We have a chalkboard in our kitchen, and I'll write things on it that I know I'm about to do, just so I can check it of afterwards... that's how looney I am haha.

  

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• bells24412

  

  July 2012

  I have had pretty bad anxiety 5 years ago then it git better then it came back when my grandma who i am really close to died. I felt with it by running and also medication yes it is that bad but running helped alot and it made me think about all the positives and with the wedding stress i think i run everyday and it is a great stress reliever

  

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• pillsburyaj member

  

  July 2012

  I deal with stress and anxiety with distractions such as hanging out with friends or shopping (I call it "retail therapy".) Also, as I mentioned earlier, wine. Curling up on the couch with a glass of wine and a good book always helps take my mind off of things.

  

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• colleenm18 member

  

  July 2012

  I thankfully do not really have anxiety.  I get a little anxious now when in cars driving on a highway if I am not driving.. but this is all to do with how FI's brother was killed last year.  Other then that if I feel uneasy I just need to talk thing out or have a flip out and then I am all better and can move on.  I am always very thankful that I dont actually get anxiety because I know a lot of people who are really severely affected by this and it can be very stressful and even scary.

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• MeaganR12

  

  July 2012

  My FI has a severe anxiety and panic disorder and he had to work from home for almost a year because of it. I became very familiar with how to deal with anxiety just by watching him go through treatment. 

  
  

  My FI's biggest phobia is passing out and dying from a head injury so when he pictures the wedding day he's really worried about passing out during our ceremony. His Dr. taught him something called the hyper-tension technique where basically you clench your fists really hard over and over and it makes it almost impossible to pass out. That helps ease his mind a bit. 

  
  

  We work out together a lot to fight the anxiety. He's even started biking to work everyday. He's also cut out all caffeine which has made a huge difference. 

  
  

  I feel like lately I've been having more anxiety, especially social anxiety. I don't know if I'm feeding off of him or if it's just because I'm getting older and have more stuff to worry about now. 

  

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