Help!! When I announced our engagement to my father he issued an ultimatum, either he was walking me down the isle alone or he wasn't coming to the wedding. I was offended and angry that he demanded this. We've always had a battle of wills which involves him being controlling and bossy and me doing everything in my power to not be controlled. I did concede because I do want my dad to be there. Unfortunately my Step-Father has decided that he thinks it's unsafe for him to attend our wedding if my Birth Father is there. He bases this on the hatred my Birth Father has always had towards him. He's convinced that it will end badly with someone in cuffs or that my Step Grandmother will shoot my Birth Dad with her 357 Magnum which she carries in her purse. I can't imagine my wedding day with out my Step Dad, but I'm so afraid that if my birth father get's uninvited he'll never speak to me again. How do I choose, and if I do choose one over the other how do I either reconcile myself with a Father who may never speak to me again or a Step Dad who I'll miss sorely at the wedding? Everyone thinks it's a simple logical decision to go with my Step Dad. I am worried about the emotional ramifications and irreparable relationships.