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Help with favor etiquette desperately needed!!

I was just about to order my favors today (my wedding is now only one month away) when my mom told me that each guest was supposed to get a favor.  I had planned to give a favor to each couple and to each single guest.  What is the proper etiquette??  I do not mind ordering more favors, but is it assumed that each person gets a favor?  And if I can give one per couple, how do I know that everyone at the table gets their "designated" favor(ex: one husband and wife each take one and then a single guest ends up with nothing)?  Please help!  I am running out of time and need any input.  Thanks!!!-- Leslie

Re: Help with favor etiquette desperately needed!!

  • 1st. Favors are never necessary 2nd. what kind of favor are we talking here?
  • What is the favor?
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  • This kind of depends on what your favor is. If it's edible like a chocolate or cookie, each person really should get their own. If it's a coaster or wine stopper or something then you can probably get away with giving one to each couple, but as you mentioned there are logistical issues associated with that. I think the only way you could get around it is by assigning to the seat, or adding a tag/label to the favors indicating whose it is. Or you could just skip favors. No one will miss them.
  • set of two glass coasters
  • What's on the coasters?  picture of you guys?  wedding date?  Same on both coasters?
  • What's on the coasters?Not to be mean, but I kinda like my coasters to match. Having two random coasters would mean they wouldn't get used.
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  • It's totally fine to do one per couple. I mean, in the case of coasters, one set per household is fine. I think previous posters mentioned the best way to do it with somehow attaching them to or making them into place cards.
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  • it was going to be calla lily coasters so it is not like I can insert a place card into it
  • Cara - Well, can you wrap a ribbon around them and attach the place card to the ribbon?Or can you have a favor table and tag each set with a couple's names?What about cute little paper bags to hold them tagged with the appropriate names?Skrillions of ways to do it, I'm sure you'll figure one out. It's cool to do one per social unit though.
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  • One set per couple is fine.You can tie a ribbon around the coasters with a tag stating guests' names.
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  • I say skip the coasters either have no favors, or favors that are edible.  No one will miss the coasters - people would want more than 2 if any, so just skip them.
  • FWIW I went to a wedding this weekend and completely forgot to even take my favor. Don't stress too much! :-)
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  • If you really want there to be one favor per couple, definitely put a tag on it so everyone knows to only take one. I don't see why a couple would take more than one to begin with, but people are crazy sometimes. So just spend a little extra time and make some cute tags to go with them. That way, whether you put them around on your tables or have a separate favor table, people know which favor is theirs and how many they're entitled to take. It's a simple and easy fix.
  • My honest opinion...since you haven't ordered them yet...don't! Go for something edible instead.  Otherwise, I will guarantee that MANY of these coasters will get left behind.  And for those who actually take them, very few will use them.  Save your money!
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  • I will also second the notion to get a different favor. Coasters are alright I guess, but like PP said, people will most likely leave them behind. Example: At my friends wedding, her favor was a framed photo of her and her husband. Sure, it was a nice picture, but WTF am I going to do with a picture of someone else? There were enough favors for everyone to have one, but DH and I didn't take 2 of them. I took one, but I couldn't even tell you where that thing is now or I even still have it.
  • save your money.  i can't imagine that many people are going to keep coasters, especially if they only get two ([i]especially[/i] if they only get two per couple).  no one will miss favors.  and most weddings i've been to, i couldn't fit them in my tiny purse and forgot to pick them up and felt bad the bride spent money on it. 
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