"Nagging" the groom

Re: "Nagging" the groom

• quotequeen member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_nagging-groom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:e707478d-ea94-4ccb-b302-206a6915be76Post:ceb55fe3-bde0-4ca8-af54-073906f3abe5">"Nagging" the groom</a>:
  [QUOTE]I just really need to get this off my chest because most of my BMs live out of state and it's too late to call them.  I'm getting really irritated with my fiance agreeing to do something and weeks later it still hasn't been done.  We're literally 1 month away from the wedding and NONE of his GMs have gotten measured for their tuxes.  He's told me several times for the past few weeks that he would give them a call to remind them to go get measured ASAP, but has he? NO.  He said that he would take care of getting the liquor for our reception, but yet I was the one who went out with his mom to buy it the other week.  I know guys don't really help with the wedding and <strong>I've made it a point to only ask him to take care of things I know he would be interested in doing</strong>.  I hate nagging him, but it irritates me that during the most stressful time of planning he isn't doing ANYTHING to help out.  I've told him how irritated it's making me but all he says is "Don't worry hun, I'll take care of it" which is what he says all the time and doesn't take care of anything.  GAHHHH.
  Posted by angiereic[/QUOTE]
  
  Well, apparently he's not actually that interested in doing those things.  Have you tried giving him hard deadlines?  "I need X done by Y date.  Can you take care of it by then?  If not let me know now so I can do it myself."
  
  Don't nag the groomsmen about getting fitted though.  They are adults and you should trust them to do what they need to do.  If they end up having to pay a rush fee because they procrastinated, that's their problem.

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• 6fsn member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  What quote said.  One month doesn't sound too close to be nagging yet- on the tuxes or the alchohol.  In regards to the alcohol, you gave him a task then did it yourself because you didn't think he would.  What does that tell him?
  
  My husband is a serial procrastinator.  99% of the time he gets things done on his own schedule.  Let your FI have his schedule.

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• lexandfab member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  What I've done with FI through the planning process is have him choose a few things he would be interested in helping with, give him the date it needs to be done written down (yes, a list) and let it go. He had months to complete his tasks from big to small and did all of them without me having to drive him nuts. I just nicely said 'thanks for helping babe, I appreciate it. You taking care of all of that means I can totaly handle all of this'. Delegate and let it go.

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• Sloane99 member

  

  September 2010 edited December 2011

  In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_nagging-groom?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:47Discussion:e707478d-ea94-4ccb-b302-206a6915be76Post:ceb55fe3-bde0-4ca8-af54-073906f3abe5">"Nagging" the groom</a>:
  [QUOTE] I know guys don't really help with the wedding and I've made it a point to only ask him to take care of things I know he would be interested in doing.  Posted by angiereic[/QUOTE]
  
  Please stop perpetuating these stereotypes. There's plenty of guys that are interested in wedding planning and plenty of women who aren't. This is not a free pass to not taking care of what needs to get done.
  
  If you've set the timelines and lined up the vendors then you need to tell him that X needs to be done by Y date and hope that he's mature enough to step up to the plate.

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