Hi Ladies,I need some advice/input! FI and I are at a loss of what to do...We're having our wedding on a Sunday, and my parents are hosting a BBQ the Saturday afternoon. The majority of our guests are coming from out of town (including ourselves - it is in my hometown). FMIL is insisting that she has to host a Friday night dinner for 'her people'. We were going back and forth a lot because FI and I feel obligated to be there (while including my parents' and our guests too). Fi's parents are also hosting a party a few months prior to invite the people who can't come or were not invited (we're trying to keep the wedding small). This means that on top of the wedding there would be 3 other events, which is way too much for FI, and I think I'll be too overwhelmed before Sunday rolls around.We had decided to let her do her thing Friday and my parents would visit with their family. FI and I thought we could do something with friends/cousins (go to a bar, bowling, etc).My problem is that I think it's weird for FI and I not to be at these things Friday since everyone's coming for OUR wedding. I didn't want to do friday because of the cost (it will cost nearly as much as the wedding dinner), and the fact that FI never wanted a big wedding. FMIL says it's fine for us not to be there, but I feel strange about the whole thing. PLUS people may not even be flying in in time for the Friday dinner.HELP! What should we do!?!?