I had my first shower thrown last weekend by my FMIL, and it was wonderful! The whole thing was super fun, except when I was talking to one of FMIL's (kind of snotty) friend. She asked if anyone else was throwing me a shower, and I mentioned that my MOH was putting together a small Jack & Jill for people closer to my hometown, about 4 hours away. This woman audibly gasped and looked at me like I just told her I shot someone on the way to the shower that morning. WTF? Is there something inherently offensive about having men and women come together for a pre-wedding party? Is there another meaning of Jack and Jill that I haven't heard of? I've always heard it in reference to a regular shower that males and females attend instead of the regular girls-only thing.
In case you're wondering, MOH's shower will be very low key, and she/I thought it would be nice to invite guys and gals since most of the people are couple friends of ours anyway. I told her I didn't really want our friends to feel obligated to buy us a bunch of stuff, so she's throwing a 'stock the bar' shower where they'll bring a bottle of booze or something. No traditional 'shower games' but more like a picnic with some outdoor activities.
I'm excited about all of it, and my friends that have gotten invitations to it seem to think it sounds like a lot of fun, but I'm curious as to whether this we are committing an ettiquite faux pas.