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What to do for tears?

Hi,It's still 10 minths till our wedding and I already know the song I want to dance to. It's a gorgeous Polish song about huge love that doesn't ever pass. Joe is saying we should print translation for the 100 guests who will not understand how beautiful it is... and I... I can't stop the tears that are welling up each time I think about the wedding.  I imagine myself walking down the aisle with my dad, my sister as my Maid of Honor, and Joe standing at the altar... then I imagine our first dance and I keep crying.I have always been super emotional. I even cry on that American Cancer Association with the people blowing candles for the next birthdays they survive.  I cry on all movies, and I cry when I see people to the airport.  I cried for some five minutes when Joe proposed and for another 10 minutes when I told my family... I am scared of being all cry baby at the wedding.  I want to walk down the aisle with a smile on my face, not tears going down my face... How do you ladies handle that? Is there anything I should take before the wedding? If yes, I should probably test it before the wedding, to see the side effects... Any advice?Ela

Re: What to do for tears?

  • My DD cried all the way down the aisle at her brother's wedding (she was a BM). She cries at commercials on TV. She cries over everything. On her wedding day, she looked down the aisle at her now DH and just glowed-not a tear in sight. During their vows.....not a tear. During their first dace-a smile as bright as a bank of theatre lights. I think you might surprise yourself. In the meantime, listen to the song over and over and over and over to sensitize yourself a bit.
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  • I don't think there is anything wrong with you crying. Your friends and family should know you well enough to know you cry. That you are emotional. You can smile through the tears. You know your tears are of joy not sorrow. Don't worry about it.
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  • Waterproof mascara.I'm not typically a crier, so I can't say that I know how it is to be in your position, but I know people that do cry.  If everyone that will be there knows you're emotional and cry, even on the best occasions, then they will understand.  I would definitely not suggest taking anything, because IMO, you wouldn't seem like yourself, and you want to be as true to yourself as possible on your wedding day :)
  • Thank you, Ladies... I think getting myself used to the song is a good idea. My issue with crying is that: 1.My whole face gets red and stays red for a while. 2. I do not want to see my face cringed with tears in the pictures. I want to be one of those brides that glow... I do hope I will surpise myself :) Ela
  • I'm the same way.  I would suggest having your makeup professionally done, and letting your artist know your concerns.  I'm a big crier, but I actually made it down the aisle all smiles.  It might have been the relief that it was about to be over, or it might be the Celexa.  :)  But who knows, you might surprise yourself.
  • damn it, my eyes are tearing up looking at your wedding pictures... seriously ladies, this is not some: "ooo I may have a joyous tear or two in my eyes" this is some real there-will-be-flood worry! My sister said that her BF will prolly cry to see me walk down the aisle too, so I should not worry HAHA, I love her! Celexa :) it says one of the side effects is change in sex drive or performance... oh oh I will have to think about something funny, not teary, maybe that will help... like "I have a fever, and the only thing I need is MORE COWBELL!"
  • Maybe if it's in your budget spring for an all day make up artist that can be on site to help you after the ceremony, and during pictures so that you look flawless.  Or maybe one that does your make up before the ceremony and touch up right after for pictures.  Confession:  I used to cry at the Folgers commercial they play around Christmas time where the mom comes down the steps to the coffee smell and says, "Peter, you're home!" 
  • I know I'm late, but I just thought I would mention that my make up artist told me not to use kleenex and that a cloth hankerchief will prevent so much smearing.  I'm a crier and an unattractive one at that.  So thankfully I teared up once during the ceremony, but otherwise held it together.  Good luck.
  • Valium or Xanax should do the trick.
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