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Who is under the chuppah?

barijanebarijane member
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My mom wants to stand under the chuppah with us. My brother is aggravated because, as my Man of Honor, he wants to stand next to me. Is it normal for parents to stand under the chuppah? Is it ok if only one parent does (FI's mom would prefer to sit in the front row)? TIA!!
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Re: Who is under the chuppah?

  • tenofcups4metenofcups4me member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes, it's "normal" for parents to stand under the chuppah. I'm not sure if there's a set placement for everyone (maybe someone else can confirm). The first time I got married, our parents stood just to the side of us and bridal party in back of them. Why does FI's mom want to sit? That's highly unusual unless she has a physical reason that makes it difficult for her to stand.
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  • barijanebarijane member
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    edited December 2011
    FI's mom had some sort of operation on her foot, so standing is uncomfortable - but also, she is not Jewish so for her it is more normal to sit in the front row.
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  • ShoshieShoshie member
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    edited December 2011
    My DH;s father is catholic -- he stood under the chuppah with us -- along with DH's mom, my mother and father and two grandmothers. My BMs were on the stairs leading up to it. You can always get a chair under there if you FI's mom can't stand up. It truly is a place of honor -- regardless of whether the parent is Jewish or not. If there is room for your Man of Honor, there's no reason he couldn't be under there as well.
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  • Danaz1Danaz1 member
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    edited December 2011
    I had both of my parents and his parents as well as my 2 sisters. The groomsmen were right outside of it
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  • barijanebarijane member
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    edited December 2011
    Ok, so maybe we will just have all immediate family under the chuppah - that includes Man of Honor and Best Man anyway.  Good idea with the chair for FI's mom.  Thanks guys!!
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  • razdazzle_22377334razdazzle_22377334 member
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    edited December 2011
    Fi wants just us under the Chuppah...he likes the idea that it will represent us starting our new family together.I want our parents, his sister, and my brother and sister.  I like the idea of the two families joining in on our celebration.  As the youngest sibling, I felt it was really special to stand under the chuppah when my sister got married.Ultimately, Fi said either way is fine with him...we will probably decide closer to when we look at the actual space and see what works for logistics.
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