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Bachelorette Party etiquette

designerbride09designerbride09 member
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Is it ok to invite people to your bachelorette party who are not invited to the wedding? Thoughts?
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Re: Bachelorette Party etiquette

  • soontobemrsgriffinsoontobemrsgriffin member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't think so.  Is there an abnormal reason they aren't invited to the wedding?  In my opinion, if they don't make the cut for the actual event, it's not fair to expect them to participate in pre-events. 
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  • Jamie FeerJamie Feer member
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    edited December 2011
    I agree with the girl above. Its just not right. You did not invite themto the wedding for a reason. At the Bechelorette party you will be talking about the wedding and they will feel so left out knowing they are not invited to the wedding.
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  • ikchambersikchambers member
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    edited December 2011
    i have no idea about etiquette rules but I am inviting girls to the bachelorette party and not the wedding. Most of them are work friends and we made a rule about the guest list of the wedding that no work friends or school friends are invited because we couldn't afford it. but they are still girls i see every week and love being around so i am inviting them to the party!! i don't know if it's the "right" thing to do but whatever :)
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  • Jamie FeerJamie Feer member
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    edited December 2011
    If it makes you happy them go for it. I would try to tell your BM to not talk about the wedding too much though so your work friends and shool friends wont feel left out. But that is just my personal opinion.
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  • soontobemrsgriffinsoontobemrsgriffin member
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    edited December 2011
    I also think if you are inviting someone not invited to the wedding you should be very clear with them.  I imagine it would be very awkward if you were all out having fun and on of the girls asked what time the wedding started and what kind of shows she should wear. 
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  • JenandNeilJenandNeil member
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    edited December 2011
    NO!  If they aren't important enough to invite to your wedding then they shouldn't be invited to pre wedding party events such as bridal showers, wedding showers, bachelorette parties, or engagement parties.  Since all of the above are seen as gift giving events.
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  • designerbride09designerbride09 member
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    edited December 2011
    Thanks for all the advice. I really wanted to avoid the awkwardness. I'm going to stick with the invited guests.
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  • ocprincessocprincess
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    edited December 2011
    My best friend invited people who wouldn't be *able* to attend her wedding due to leave at the end of the school year for home (out of state) and not being able to afford to stay in So Cal for the summer.  She wanted to do her BP the week before, so a few people who wern't able to actually attend her  wedding ended up coming...but they were invited to both.
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