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random question looking for opinions.

So this is a totally off beat post, but I would like some insight/opinions on this. With acebook and twitter and other social outlets being so prominant these days, its very easy to look into other peoples personal lives.
I have reconnected with many people tvat I have lost touch with since high school, and its great to hear stories and catch up and so on. Now I am pushing 30, and there are a few people Ive reconnected with through social networks who are ether the same age or older. And I just discovered that a person I knew back in h.s. Is parent to a 10 year old child. Single parent scrnario, which I know is never easy. However I learned that this person is still living home with their parents and sharing a room with their 10 year child. Now if this was necessity b/c there was just no other option, then it wouldnt bother me.
But this person is constantly talking about the social life they have, going out all the time, the vacations that are taken and so on. I also know this person works a full time job. So there is most certainly an income.
My issue is, this kid is 10 years old and being forced to share a room with their parent, has no real sense of privacy, and is probably hearing seeing things that 10 year olds shouldnt. I find it unfair to the child and also as though this.person has totally taken advantage of their parents generousity. I dont know why this is bothering me the way that it does, and maybe thats why I would like to hear opinions on this kind of scenario.
Im not planning on approaching the topic with this person, because it isnt my place to. Im just curious how other people perceive this.
Ive worked since I was 14 years old, and was out of my parents house at 20. And was supporting a household completely by myself by 22, and that was before I finished my undergrad degree. So the salary I was making was nowhere near substantial.I know how expensive it is to raise a child and be out on ur own, people do it everyday. And i just feel bad for this child who is stuck in such close quarters as their parent.
Thoughts opinions?
And let me stress, I am not being mean or nasty or bitchy, I am just trying to gain some perspective on this thats all.

Re: random question looking for opinions.

  • Just remember that facebook doesn't always represent reality.  

    Maybe she lives at home so she can help out her aging parents?  Or maybe she's saving money so she can afford to send her child to college?   Maybe those vacations aren't as nice or expensive as they seem (we all play up our vacations on facebook a little bit, don't we?), and maybe that job doesn't pay as much as you think it does.  Maybe she has her own student loans that she's paying off.    

    All I would say is try not to judge her situation without knowing all of the facts.  And facebook is NOT all of the facts.
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    I moved back in with my mom when my daughter was 7 because my college intership was 40 hours per week for 0 pay. I also lived in an RV for a total of almost 2 years on 2 occasions (for travel and fun, I guess we were kind of homeless, but intentionally so). We shared close quarters - she was 3 and 9 on those cross-country adventures.

    Anyways, my point is - my daughter is fine. Your friend's may not be, but that's not for you to judge. I didn't ever find it a problem for DD to not see/hear things she shouldn't because I'm not so selfish that I couldn't act appropriately around her. I didn't really go out all that much though and didn't date much.  Raising a kid as a single parent is hard enough, so make sure you're not judging your friend without reason.
  • Wonder if she ever noticed the grammar mistake on her butt.
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  • Mrs.B6302007Mrs.B6302007 member
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    OP - there are way too many unknowns in this situation. Maybe she had a home and lost it, declared bankruptcy, and can't qualify for a house or even renting due to her salary. Maybe this is really the only place she has to go other than a homeless shelter where she'd probably be sharing a bed with her kid.  They have a roof over their heads.  That's what matters. I really don't think bringing it to a public forum to "get opinions and perspective" is going to do anything other than bring a lot of comments about you being judgmental.  I'm just not really seeing the point of the thread other than to talk about her and judge her assumed parenting style (10 year old might see/hear things she shouldn't).
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  • I agree with MrsB. FB =/= truth.
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  • Don't judge people based on FB posts.  Period.  
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