So I'm not sure what to make of this situation. I received a card from a married couple (the wife is someone I've known for many years.) She wrote on the inside of the card that "a charitable donation was made in honor of our marriage." It struck me as weird because she talks poorly about a friend of hers who wanted to make charitable donations for her b-day in lieu of gifts. She made a point of saying how picky she was about her charities, yada yada yada, how stupid that friend was to even do something like that. So I'm not sure why she would go ahead and give a gift to a charity "in honor of our marriage" without asking us if we had any charities we preferred. It struck me as hypocritical. So what's the etiquette on giving charitable donations as gifts? And what are people's feelings about it?