VT Wedding.. Want Catholic outdoor ceremony.. possible??

Wifey0612 · January 2012

Ive been hearing mixed responses about if the Catholic church will marry you if you are not getting married in the church. My Fiance and i really want to get married outside at an Inn in VT but it is very important to both families that we are married by someone in the Catholic Faith... Is this possible.. and does anyone know of Catholic Churches in Arlington/ Machester VT area that would be willing to perform the ceremony

thank you

agapecarrie · January 2012

In order for a Catholic marriage to be considered valid, it has to follow canonical form, just like all the sacraments. The church building is symbolic of the community of faith, thus important for a vocational sacrament to take place inside of it.

Occasionally a dispensation from form is given by the Bishop for a just reason, which is not simply just wanting to get married outside. If both people are Catholic, this is pretty much impossible.

There is much more to Catholic marriage than simply being married by someone Catholic. It requires agreement to living the Catholic faith and raising the children Catholic.

mica178 · January 2012

Any chance you can get married in the church and have the reception at the inn as a compromise?

ootmother2 · January 2012

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[QUOTE]Ive been hearing mixed responses about if the Catholic church will marry you if you are not getting married in the church. My Fiance and i really want to get married outside at an Inn in VT but it is very important to both families that we are married by someone in the Catholic Faith... Is this possible.. and does anyone know of Catholic Churches in Arlington/ Machester VT area that would be willing to perform the ceremony thank you :)
Posted by Wifey0612[/QUOTE]

I don't know the exact area you're talking about but the Roxbury/Rochester/Bethel Churches were pretty much destroyed by Irene this fall. My brother says the towns are sharing just about any gathering place they can find to have one mass per week between the three towns. I'm pretty sure I have the towns right but Calypso would know them better as I believe her family lives there.

Your wedding is almost two years off so I doubt this situation will still exist at the time of your wedding. Any shot is probably out the window now. Stick with a church if you want a Catholic wedding.

GL

Calypso1977 · January 2012

yes, Bethel/Quechee/Woodstock/Killlington area was hit very hard. Manchester had some damage too, but it wasnt the worst part of the state. recovery has been amazing up there tho - surely in 2 years you wont even know Irene blew threw there.

are you looking at the Equinox?

i would do a church ceremony and your reception at the Inn.

Wifey0612 · January 2012

Thanks everyone. We are looking at the West Mountain Inn and im pretty determined to have both the ceremony and reception there since the place certianly isnt cheap. Plus to be honest... Its one person from each side of our family who cares about us being married into the Catholic Faith. We very rarely go to church.. maybe twice a year on major holidays.. and i am baptised but didnt go through communion or anything so i pretty much thought it was a long shot but was willing to compromise if i wouldnt have to change the ceremony plans. We do want to baptise and raise our children in the catholic church but im told that as long as the godparents are catholic and we agree to raise them that way then it doesnt matter is we are married into it correct??

I was actually in VT when Irene hit. We live in CT but both have homes in VT (mine in Stratton/ West Wardsboro area and his in the Chester/ Ludlow area) it has been heartbreaking to see the areas stuggle and the devistation thats still all around. but Vermonters are very stong and supportive so they will come back faster and stronger from this

Calypso1977 · January 2012

We do want to baptise and raise our children in the catholic church but im told that as long as the godparents are catholic and we agree to raise them that way then it doesnt matter is we are married into it correct??

well, yes and no.

you dont have to be married int he catholic church in order to baptize your children in the faith. however, how do you expect to teach them and raise them in the faith if you cannot fully participate in teh sacraments yourself? your kids will surely ask questions like "why do we get communion but mom and dad dont?" a priest may also have doubts abotu baptizing your children if he thinks tehy wont grow up in a catholic home. also, if you dont believe it enough yourselves to live the faith and marry in the faith, then why do you want to raise your kids in teh faith?

just some things to think about.

Knottie76187314 · July 2014

Hi, I'm curious to know what you ended up doing. I'm actually considering the same venue and have the same issue (though only my fiance is Catholic, but it is important to him that our marriage be valid in the eyes of the church). We live out of state though I am from the area. We drove by the Catholic church in N. Bennington and it looked pretty charming on the outside and have heard from friends that it is nice. We might have 2 ceremonies in order to meet our desire to have an outdoor, personal ceremony as well as church approved one.

IrishPirate60 · July 2014

This is an OLD thread. Chances of the original poster being around are slim.

And two weddings? No Catholic priest would participate in that.

professorscience · July 2014

^Correct. You get one wedding. Period.

Your FI needs to contact a priest ASAP in order to get things lined up, since it is his desire to have a wedding considered valid in the eyes of the church. Hopefully when the two of you meet with a priest, deacon, pastoral associate, or even church wedding coordinator, some of your concerns about personalizing your ceremony can be soothed.

MesmrEwe · August 2014

Here is what friends of mine have done... They have a small private ceremony earlier in the day in the Catholic Church and then have what in essence is a "vow renewal" later in the day (or on another day) at the outdoor venue with all of their friends and guests. That's BY FAR the easiest way to go if you want the outdoor ceremony without having to deal with dispensations and such.

IrishPirate60 · August 2014

This thread is two years old. @Knot Porscha

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