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Grandparent guards

JMD1121JMD1121
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Hi, ladies: I have two cousins who have agreed to walk my elderly grandparents down the aisle at the ceremony and then into the reception when the grandparents are introduced. (Since the grandparents are on different sides of the family, I am not having them walk together.) What is the term for this role: are they ushers/ escorts/ helpers???!!! Since all the cousins have to do is take a grandparent to their respective seat, I figure the cousins don't have to come to the rehearsal, but I have to thank them for being involved. What's the best way to do that? Do I invite them to the rehearsal dinner as a thank you for agreeing to help? I feel funny about that because my MIL is hosting the dinner, though she says she'll invite whoever I want to be there. Is a personalized thank you card enough to thank them for this regardless of whether or not they attend the dinner? I am sure I am overthinking this, but I don't want to offend anyone. TIA
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  • Leah&Christian09Leah&Christian09 member
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    I would call them ushers and invite them to attend the rehearsal and the RD, but let them know that it's ok if they can't make it. If they are adults, go with a bottle of wine or something simple for the TY gift.
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  • kmm2150kmm2150
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    If you want to somehow recognize these cousins, make them more a part of the wedding party, you could call them ushers or family attendants or something like that, and get them a small token similar to what you're giving other ushers, readers, etc.  I think though, that you don't need to feel too obligated to give them a formal title or formal thank-you; to me, this is just something you do as part of a family.  We have several elderly relatives who will be assisted in various ways on our wedding day by several younger relatives, and I've done this at other family events, and did not receive nor feel I deserved a special title or a gift for doing so.  Thank you's are always nice, but sometimes I think you can go overboard with making everyone the Official Holder of Grandpa's cane While He Uses the Men's Room, etc., when that's really just part of life.
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  • lilgina64lilgina64
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    "the Official Holder of Grandpa's cane While He Uses the Men's Room"by far one of the greatest things I've read on any of these posts.I agree with the girls. a simple thank you goes a long way with most people. and since they are family, it's nice to include family as much as possible as opposed to a random friend from college who just happens to be hell bent on coming to your wedding so you are putting them to work.
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