Hi everyone - My name is Julie. I just came across the Second Weddings forum and I'm so glad I did! The "It's Normal" thread almost brought tears to my eyes I can relate to so much of it.
A little history about me:
I met and started dating my xH in 2000, we married in 2003, and we divorced in 2007. It sucked. I was broken and had to put myself back together. My xH remarried and started a family immediately following, if you know what I mean, but I kept my head held high and forced myself to be mature about it. I wanted to be the bigger person and while I said right from the beginning that I was "fine", I of course wasn't. With every year that passes, though, I realize more and more that this is the way it was always supposed to be. I met my FI in 2010 and he proposed in August this year. I was ecstatic. I've never cried so much at the thought of our wedding. This time it feels SOOOOO different. I NEVER felt this way about my xH. We got married because it was the next step, not because we were in love. But enough about that....
My FI and I are planning a Catholic wedding in May in the Dominican Republic, as my FI and his family are Catholic. We had planned to get married in their Catholic Chapel at the resort, but have since had to change our plans. Through our marriage prep work through the church, we have recently come to find out I need an Annulment from my first wedding. This is a legal process that goes through the Catholic Church and takes about a year to complete, generally speaking. Upon finding this out, I was mortified. This is my second wedding, his first. I know his family completely supports our marriage and really probably isn't as strict on this whole Catholic wedding thing as what I have in my head, but I still can't help but feel I'm letting my fiance and his family down. Our wedding date can't be changed - over 20 guests have already purchased tickets. So for now, we're planning a legal civil wedding in the Dominican and then we will have our marriage validated in the Catholic Church once the Annulment comes through. Has anyone else had experience with this? I guess I'm just looking for some support through this. I hate feeling like the bad seed.
Julie
PS - On a funny note, we ironically were introduced through - my ex-MIL!
I guess I can feel flattered that she thinks that highly of me, right?