Gift Registries and ideas

bops812 · April 2011

My fiance and I have lived together for a little over a year. Between both of us, we have most of what people usually ask for wedding gifts. Has anyone heard of asking for money to help with honeymoon costs? Or? Any other ideas or suggestions?

mary9449 · April 2011

Don't ask just for money and don't create a honeymoon registry. Both are not in good taste. Can you upgrade anything you have now (i.e. bedding, towels, dishes)?? Register for china and crystal as well. You may not use it right away, but down the line you will be glad you have it.

jessicabessica · April 2011

If you search this board, you'll find a lot about honeymoon registries.

Bottom line: it's not polite to ask for cash. Create a small registry (upgrade your dishes/sheets/coffee pot/etc. if you have absolutely everything already), and people will get the message that you prefer cash. Decline offers of showers if you don't want physical gifts.

jilld82 · April 2011

Tacky. Tacky. Tacky.

Pick a honeymoon you can afford instead of asking your guests to pay for it.

GeauxTigers17 · April 2011

It's perfectly fine to not register, and to pass via word of mouth that you are saving up for such-and-such. However, I'd still set up a small registry - there are a significant number of people (largely regional though) who don't "do" cash gifts, and will want some guidance.

Mary9449 is right about straight up asking for cash and honeymoon registries. I particularly hate the HM registries though - while it's tacky, I can appreciate the sheer honesty of straight up asking for cash, but "registering" for honeymoon "experiences" when all you really get is a check is deceitful to me.

Plus, those HM registries take a commission, so if you avoid using them, at least you won't be kissing away a percentage of the cash you do get to a company.

futurepivko · April 2011

there is so much you can use or need and not realize it....pots, pans, gadgets whatever! take the time to go look and i think you will be surprised.

teachermegs · April 2011

Welcome to the boards. Tell us a little more about your wedding details!
If you search the boards will find other posts asking this question.

Try doing a small registry for upgraded items. When DH and I registered, we upgraded many items like towels, sheets, silverware and other things. We had a good size registry and still received checks, cash and gift cards.

Bonzo2011 · April 2011

I agree with PPs about upgrading things you already own.

Example: FI and I are living together, and we have a lot of basic house stuff, but most of it is stuff that when my dad and aunt packed up my grandparents' house they put in boxes marked "Bonzo's apt". So, the towels I have right now are the towels from my grandparents' guest bathroom from before I can remember, and they have gone through 5 years now of daily use. Getting a bit worn, so they'll be getting replaced. Other things, like mis-matched dishes, we're thinking of passing along to my little sister who is in college now, and registering for new sets. It'll help us and help my sister because she won't have to go buy any of that stuff.

Before you go to the store, look at all of your stuff and figure out if there's anything you might replace in the next few years from wear and tear. If so, register for an upgrade!

Hope this helps!

DNAtime · April 2011

The FI and I have lived together for 3 years but we have a pretty good sized registry. A lot of kitchen items, like new knives, pots and pans, a wand blender, good stuff like that. We are also registered at REI. That might be an idea for you.

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