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Good lord...(from TB)

mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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Apparently I didn't have a choice

I posted here about a week ago about my fiance's mother wanting to be in the delivery room while I delivered.  I was strongly leaning toward no because it is stupid and I don't want anyone else there.  I told my fiance as such, so what does he do?  Goes and tells his mother sure and says I will thank him later.  WTF?  My mom doesn't want to be there I sure as hell don't want his mom there. 

 He said she won't look, which I know is a lie.  They watched the last grandchild and even helped hold the legs opened.  I am sure by that point it is hard not to look.

 I am so mad, one more thing I have to worry about in delivery.

 

Link to thread: http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/43001721/ShowThread.aspx#43001721

 

OH and side note, I'm totally *smh* at OP's screen name, which is "Joshsbabymomma".   Really?!

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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    edited December 2011
    She needs to tell FI's mom, "NO!" and be done with it.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    edited December 2011
    OH and PS, if you read the thread, you'll see a familiar face at the bottom of it.  HEE!
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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    Really, put on your big girl panties and say no.
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  • loveshine1loveshine1 member
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    Oh Jessjo. You always chime in at the right moment.
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  • DG1DG1 member
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    Good answer.  Sadly, though, a lot of nurses don't bother keeping people out, or some nurse comes on shift who doesn't know that X isn't allowed in or whatever. 

    But good god, I would be LIVID.  And hell yes, she still has a choice. 

    Part of me suspects that the "you'll thank me later" is followed by an unspoken "becuase I won't beat you if you do what I say." 

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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_good-lordfrom-tb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:a1f4db62-a41f-4839-af53-43e0b4f365dfPost:20790dff-296d-499a-8cbe-c743fa728516">Re: Good lord...(from TB)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Good answer.  Sadly, though, a lot of nurses don't bother keeping people out, or some nurse comes on shift who doesn't know that X isn't allowed in or whatever. 
    Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

    I'd be having the first nurse I saw putting it in my chart and I'd go as far as to make a sign for the frickin' door.  And I'm serious,  if DH pushed it (which this would never, ever be an issue for us), I'd kick him out too. 
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  • Cant_wait!Cant_wait!
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    edited December 2011
    Hell no, I would retract the babydaddy's invitation into the birthing room for pulling that crap. I think you get decide who gets to look at your own Vagina, no?
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  • TheDuckisTheDuckis member
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    If this was me, that dude wouldn't be my fiance anymore. Holy hell.
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  • mrsconn23mrsconn23 member
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    I found it amusing that everyone, except for me, called him her DH.  That's why I pointed out that I'd reconsider marrying him, kid on the way or not. 
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  • zsazsa-stlzsazsa-stl member
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    WHY do these people want to be in the room?  Did they have an audience when they were giving birth 20 years ago?
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  • LnR70707LnR70707 member
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    I am so grateful DH and I are on the same page when it comes to no one but us in the delivery room (and that we both have sane parents that wouldn't want to be in there).
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  • jojobrnjojobrn member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_good-lordfrom-tb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:a1f4db62-a41f-4839-af53-43e0b4f365dfPost:20790dff-296d-499a-8cbe-c743fa728516">Re: Good lord...(from TB)</a>:
    [QUOTE]Good answer.  Sadly, though, a lot of nurses don't bother keeping people out, or some nurse comes on shift who doesn't know that X isn't allowed in or whatever.  
    Posted by DG1[/QUOTE]

    <div>If you TELL your nurse you don't want certain people in the room, you better believe we will keep them out. I've never worked with a nurse who wasn't an advocate for their patients, especially while in labor. I've seen plenty of family get booted from a delivery room in all the hospitals I've worked in, both as a nurse and as a midwife student.</div><div>
    </div><div>But nurses can't read minds, you have to say something.</div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_wedding-woes_good-lordfrom-tb?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:47Discussion:a1f4db62-a41f-4839-af53-43e0b4f365dfPost:541bd85f-4f6e-49a2-b86f-5815ade8d922">Re: Good lord...(from TB)</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Good lord...(from TB) : If you TELL your nurse you don't want certain people in the room, you better believe we will keep them out. I've never worked with a nurse who wasn't an advocate for their patients, especially while in labor. I've seen plenty of family get booted from a delivery room in all the hospitals I've worked in, both as a nurse and as a midwife student. But nurses can't read minds, you have to say something.
    Posted by jojobrn[/QUOTE]


    IDK.  I just know there are plenty of bump stories like "I told the nurses that X wasn't allowed in, but she sneaked past anyway" or a nurse didn't know or whatever. I'm also not confident that all nurses are as into the advocacy as you are. They might be a small minority, but they're out there. They're also incredibly busy, and I couldn't blame them for that not being high on their priority list. 

    If you feel like you'll need an army of people barricading your delivery room, don't call your family until after your baby is delivered. 

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  • ReturnOfKuusReturnOfKuus member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm on the reconsider marrying him bandwagon, too.
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  • InksWellInksWell member
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    edited December 2011

    Is he a babydaddy or a mommasboy?

    Suriusly- "You'll thank me later?" I think you misspelled "shank", sir.

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