Does the bride and groom's families both host a bridal shower?

KTwithaY · October 2009

My future mother-in-law asked if she should host a shower for me with her side of the family? My family will be giving me a shower as well. Is it expected that the groom's family host a shower for the bride? Is this too much?

ggmae · October 2009

DH's family didn't host one for me and I didn't think anything of it. My BMs hosted one and invited women from both sides of the family.

~mRm~ · October 2009

Ditto gg

Night_Sprite · October 2009

If she wants to, it isn't a problem.

brookelynpaisley · October 2009

She doesn't have to, though she's welcome to if she'd like. Just be sure that you're on the same page with her regarding your wedding guest list - her shower guests must be on it. Also, moms and bridal party should be invited to all showers.My BMs hosted one for my and they invited MIL - she's the only family on DH's side in our area. Since she's the only one in town, MIL didn't host one of her own. She ended up not even making it to my BMs' shower, but whatever.

salt78 · October 2009

It's not expected for anyone to throw you a bridal shower. It's certainly a nice thing if someone offers to do so though.

lpstl · October 2009

She can host one if she would like, however it would be expected that your mother would include your fi's side of the family on the guestlist for the shower she's hosting.If your FMIL wants to do a seperate one that's fine also.My SMIL hosted one in the city where I live now, and my family hosted one in my hometown. This worked out well for everyone because the cities are 300 miles apart and I didn't want anyone to feel obligated to travel.

sucrets4 · October 2009

Our families live about 500 miles apart, so they threw separate showers. For the one on my side, MIL and SIL were invited, but with a note saying that they wanted to let them know but didn't expect them to travel.

sunflower1998 · October 2009

I would graciously accept. DH's family did not host a shower for me, but attended the one my MOH threw.

tenofcups4me · October 2009

Sometimes there are separate showers; sometimes just one that encompasses everyone (and I guess sometimes just one for one side or the other). She should probably talk to whoever is throwing the one from your side of the family and together they can decide if they want to host one joint shower or two separate ones.

irshis20 · October 2009

Technically your mother is not supposed to host a shower for you - members of the bride's immediate family are not supposed to host...her MOH/bridesmaids usually host a shower and invite women from both sides (even if one side is out of town). But if your future mother in law wants to host a shower for you, that is wonderful and perfectly appropriate.

jamm2019 · October 2009

My MIL's friends hosted a shower for us. No one on my side of the family, or my bridesmaids hosted a shower for us...

danieliza1127 · October 2009

My MOH offered to throw me a shower so I included my closest family and my H's closest family and I just had one shower. It was only about 30 people though. If you have more than that, two showers would probably be good. In the end, showers are thrown by whoever offers to throw you one. There are no requirements about who throws it.

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