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Money as only gifts

Jeska01Jeska01
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I'm hosting my soon to be sil shower. She and my brother have everything that they need. They are paying for most of the wedding. I was hoping for help on how to ask for money and not gifts for the shower? Thanks~Jessica
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  • Leah&Christian09Leah&Christian09 member
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    Asking for money is rude. If they don't need anything for their home, they don't need a shower.
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  • mmm_080809mmm_080809 member
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    [i]If they don't need anything for their home, they don't need a shower. [/i] Ditto. Monetary gifts are fine for the wedding - not for a shower.
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  • atlcatloveratlcatlover member
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    We didn't need much either and some friends really wanted to have a shower for us. So we made it a red wine shower and asked everyone to bring a bottle of red wine for us. It was a lot of fun and everyone loved the idea!
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  • duckie1905duckie1905 member
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    The point of a shower is to "shower" the couple with gifts. No gifts=no shower. What exactly would you have them do? Open each card, read it aloud, and then announce how much every guest has given them? If I was invited and found out they wanted cash I would either buy a white elephant gift that they have no chance of returning or I would decline attending/sending a gift at all.
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  • DevonStilesDevonStiles
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    Oh, for the love of all that is holy, please do NOT ask for cash. It is beyond tacky.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    No shower for her!
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    There is never a polite way to ask for cash as a gift for a party. Well, when my bf's little sister sister asked us to give her cash it was funny, not gunna lie... but for adults? Not cute.The purpose of a bridal shower is to give gifts to the couple to help them start out their life together in their new home... if they truly don't need anything, then there is no reason for them to get a bridal shower. Someone suggested a wine bridal shower... I would think along those lines. A themed bridal shower might help with things the couple needs, even if it's not towels and bed sheets and dinnerware.
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Ditto PPs.  There isn't a polite way to do this.I'd strongly encourage her to create a registry as some people simply will never give cash.  They can look into newer sheets, towels, blankets, pillows, flatware, China and cooking items to just name a few.DH and I have been married for two years and our stuff has been used a ton.  We'll be looking for things like new towels or pillows in a few years simply due to use.   I really don't believe people who say, "We aren't going to need anything," unless they're so wealthy that they buy whatever they want whenever they want.And if they do that, I'd certainly hope that they don't have a shower.
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