Divorced Parents, Seating Arrangements

tash_rn · October 2009

I'm trying to figure out the seating arrangements for my reception. I know usually you would put the parents all at the same table, but while his parents are still together mine are divorced and do NOT get along. My father has already been throwing a fit about not feeling included so I don't want him to get bent out of shape about seating arrangments but I also want everyone to be comfortable and have a good time. I was thinking about making three family tables, one for his family, one for my mom's side, and one for my father's side. How have the rest of you handled this kind of situation? Any ideas?

rhodesign · October 2009

they don't have to be all at one table. My folks are divorced too, and while they get along, I'm not seating them together. My mom is going to sit with her mom, sisters, my sister, etc. My dad and his gf will sit with his mom, brothers, etc.

anna.oskar · October 2009

Our reception is doing three close tables. FI's family in the middle, mom's family on left, dad's family on right.

anna.oskar · October 2009

But Stage, only if it's normal in her culture. just kidding.

anna.oskar · October 2009

oops! I'll definitely take my portion of the blame. I couldn't resist.

scoetto · October 2009

We had 3 family tables for 2 sets of divorced/remarried parents. We ended up doing a dad table, a mom table and a mixed family table. Basically we set my mom & her husband with 3 of their family with his mom and 4 of her family. Then we did my dad, his wife and his two other daughters, his brother & sister in law with J's dad, one of his daughters and his sister and her husband. The third table was mixed familiy (half mine, half his). It worked well for us and people got along great.

IrishBrideND · October 2009

I think you idea is perfect.We did something similar for the ceremony. All three groups got a row.

jamm2019 · October 2009

All of our parents are divorced and don't get along either. I put them all at the same table. I figured they could feel the love for one day in their lives. They need to suck it up and enjoy this day for their kids sake...Anyway they only sit there through dinner, after that people mingle and dance so I didn't think it was a big deal...

tdmd09 · October 2009

That's what I did. I did a table for my mom's side, a table for DH's family, and then a table for my dad's side (placed on the other side of the dance floor from my mom's family). It worked out fine.

goheels05 · October 2009

Why would you put them at the same table if you know they don't get along?Put them at different tables with their extended families. It's really not that hard.

becs11048 · October 2009

Both DH and my parents are divorce and remarried. Each set of parents sat at their own table and I asked them to just let me know who they would like to sit with. (so we had parents at 4 different tables). Wasn't a big deal at all

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · October 2009

My mother flat out requested not to be seated with my father. I wasn't going to seat them together anyway. They aren't the kind who would scream at each other - just give death stares and make everyone else uncomfortable.My mom and her husband will most likely be sitting with some of my friends/wedding party. My dad will be sitting with his girlfriend and some of his family. I haven't decided where I'll put my brother yet. Probably wherever he wants to sit. My FI's parents will sit with some of their family.I think it would be awkward to seat people together who don't know each other (my family and FI's family), let alone people who outright dislike each other.FYI, we'll probably have a sweetheart table.

duckie1905 · October 2009

I know usually you would put the parents all at the same tableI don't know anyone that did this. My mom and dad hosted a table, his dad and stepmom hosted one, and his mother and stepdad hosted one. They do not have to sit together.

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