Why do I have the worst luck???

KellyandEddie0808 · February 2010

So FI calls our landlord this morning to tell him he got something in the mail that he had been waiting for. His sister answers his cell and FI asks to speak to him. Sis says he is not there so fI says to tell him that he got something in the mail and sis says "I would, but he passed away this morning". I hope I don't have to move because I haven't even been in this house for a year, and with the wedding less than 6 months away I don't have the time or money to find a new place.

mscutieri · February 2010

I think his luck is a little worse than yours, considering he died.

akmackay · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_worst-luck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:6bb4cf51-8d66-438c-9e4d-6a3d72d2aca0Post:86eaeeaa-66e8-403b-b9c2-85a9a06a0a3d">Re: Why do I have the worst luck???</a>:
[QUOTE]I think his luck is a little worse than yours, considering he died.
Posted by mscutieri[/QUOTE]

my thoughts exactly

kewltif · February 2010

Yikes... heartless much?!

Lola Minnie · February 2010

Agree with the other girls. You should make an effort to attend the wake. That is very sad.

And likely, I don't think you'll have to move. Odds are a family member of your landlord's will take over responsibility.

cateyes624 · February 2010

Seriously that is your concern, gee I'm glad your not my tenant. I had to move a few months before my wedding and everything was fine.

kewltif · February 2010

Even if you did have to move, it would likely not be any time soon. First they would decide they want to sell the house (which in this market they might decide not to) and then it would take a long time for everything to be finalized.

littledaisies · February 2010

If you signed a lease you should be fine. Even if they sell the house they can't kick you out until your lease is up. So lets say they sell it while you're still there, the buyer has to honor your lease.

cher1980 · February 2010

reallY!? read your post again and respond to it...

he died! I hope you gave his sister your condolensces...

KellyandEddie0808 · February 2010

1. how am I being heartless???? All I said is that I hope I don't have to find a new place with the wedding being so close
2. I never said that I wasn't going to the wake and funeral
3. Sorry If I'm not allowed to worry about whether or not I will have somewhere to live

mscutieri · February 2010

I guess the lack of sympathy for the fact that your landlord died made us feel that way. Maybe if you had expressed something along those lines within your post, we'd feel bad for your situation.

akmackay · February 2010

way to lash out at us.

goaliegirl · February 2010

You are being heartless because a person just DIED and all you are worried about less than a few hours later is whether you will have to move! Honestly, if you have to move, you have to move, at least you are alive...there are worst things in life that you will have to deal with!

kewltif · February 2010

It's something about your tone and then the way you're defending it.

This man is DEAD. I can imagine the conversation.

"Honey, the landlord died this morning."

"OMG!!! Where are we going to live. I have the worst luck!"

erikag23 · February 2010

ladies have you've forgotten that weddings are the most important thing ever? gosh.

kellieandeddie: i hope you now have to move for being such a heartless bridezilla.

caketime · February 2010

If you consider that the worst luck you could possibly have I would be more than happy to take it.

cher1980 · February 2010

maybe b/c your subject read - Why do I have the worst luck???

Its not about anyones luck, he died, they wont kick you to the curb...

littledaisies · February 2010

I guess I'm going to go against the group here but I don't think you're a horrible person for having that thought cross your mind. If I was in the same situation, the thought of what's going to happen to the place would probably cross my mind too. Maybe the way you phrased it upset a few people but I don't think it's a heartless thing to do. Asking his sister that question would be heartless but I'm guessing since you didn't since you posted the question here.

kewltif · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_worst-luck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:6bb4cf51-8d66-438c-9e4d-6a3d72d2aca0Post:2572aeca-050f-4557-b73b-31e0ce76d4a0">Re: Why do I have the worst luck???</a>:
[QUOTE]I guess I'm going to go against the group here but I don't think you're a horrible person for having that thought cross your mind. If I was in the same situation, the thought of what's going to happen to the place would probably cross my mind too. Maybe the way you phrased it upset a few people but I don't think it's a heartless thing to do. Asking his sister that question would be heartless but I'm guessing since you didn't since you posted the question here.
Posted by littledaisies[/QUOTE]

I agree that the thought would cross my mind. Of course you're going to think about the possibility of having to move, but it really isn't that big of a deal. Even if you do have to move it won't be anytime soon. The post just seemed really self-focused in the wake of death.

kpeteley · February 2010

I'll trade you for your luck

I agree with pp - you should be fine. These boards can only go on the info posted so be careful to include all aspects to avoid being mis-understood.

mscutieri · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why do I have the worst luck??? : I agree that the thought would cross my mind. Of course you're going to think about the possibility of having to move, but it really isn't that big of a deal. Even if you do have to move it won't be anytime soon. The post just seemed really self-focused in the wake of death.
Posted by kewltif[/QUOTE]

Perfectly said -- I wish words were my thing.

cherylanddan0706 · February 2010

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why do I have the worst luck??? : I agree that the thought would cross my mind. Of course you're going to think about the possibility of having to move, but it really isn't that big of a deal. Even if you do have to move it won't be anytime soon. The post just seemed really self-focused in the wake of death.
Posted by kewltif[/QUOTE]

My thoughts as well, your post came off very me me me, like Tiff said the thought will cross anyones mind, and I'm sure a lot of girls on this board would trade luck with you in a minute.

littledaisies · February 2010

[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Why do I have the worst luck??? : I agree that the thought would cross my mind. Of course you're going to think about the possibility of having to move, but it really isn't that big of a deal. Even if you do have to move it won't be anytime soon. The post just seemed really self-focused in the wake of death.
Posted by kewltif[/QUOTE]

I agree. I think starting off the post as claiming she has the worst luck wasn't the best approach. Otherwise I think she has a valid concern that came off the wrong way.

brad1431 · February 2010

Well you dont have the Worst luck, that title belongs to your landlord...

KellyandEddie0808 · February 2010

I'm sorry if you ladies misunderstood what I was trying to say. First off I barely knew the guy. I've only met him twice in my life. Only once since I've lived here, so its not like he was close family or a friend. Yes I feel bad that he passed away and yes we did extend our sincere condolences to his sister and yes we are going to the wake and funeral. The reason I say that I have bad luck is because if I didn't have BAD luck than I wouldn't have any luck. I was just worried that I would have to move for the 3rd time in 2 1/2 years and FI just got laid off and the wedding is in less than 6 months. I just didn't appreciate people immediately jumping down my throat without knowing the whole story. I don't want to be the person everyone gangs up on, i.e. Springbride. I didn't mean to get on anyone's bad side. I'm embarassed to say that you girls actually made me cry. Made me feel like I was a bad person. Though brad made me chuckle.

caketime · February 2010

You have posted all of 51 times. Do you think we know all about you having to move 3 times or that your FI got laid off or anything else? NO because you did not explain any of it. All you said is that you have the worst luck because your landlord died. So of course we would jump on you.

With some background, yes that can be very frustrating as it is just another little thing added on. But really do not say we ganged up on you when you gave us less than 1/4 of the information as to why you have the worst luck.

mscutieri · February 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/local-wedding-boards_new-jersey_worst-luck?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Local Wedding BoardsForum:90Discussion:6bb4cf51-8d66-438c-9e4d-6a3d72d2aca0Post:02f4cdaf-589f-4138-a9bd-72cd4c95e2b3">Re: Why do I have the worst luck???</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't want to be the person everyone gangs up on, i.e. Springbride. I didn't mean to get on anyone's bad side.
Posted by KellyandEddie0808[/QUOTE]

I don't think we ganged up on you - we also did not gang up on Springbride. How does anyone not see the insults she was throwing out, especially to people who were NOT even arguing with her (i.e., me).
This is one of those situations where you can take it like a big girl and realize that you may have phrase your original post incorrectly according to what you want to convey, or you can be a beebee about it and complain about us big NJ meanies.

cvl105 · February 2010

I can't handle posts like this anymore. Moving really isn't that big of a deal. Yes, it sucks and no one wants to do it, but you'll survive.

You may have bad luck...but not the worst.

I hate the "don't gang up on me" posts. No one is ganging up on you...they all just agree that your post came off tasteless and selfish, intentionally or not. If someone else was to post this, even a "regular", everyone would have the same opinion.

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