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Am I a bad wife if..

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I want to go to the bar to watch the game instead of listening to my DH getting sick.He has been sick since we got back from NYC.  I really wanted to go to the bar with our friends (lots of Philly and Yankees fans).  But feel guilty he is sick.  I feel I should be more supportive of him.  But really, he is a very annoying sick person and our condo is too small to get away from him.






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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    Just do like I do with Ben and leave him strapped in his car seat while I go to the bar for a few hours. He'll sleep through most of it. Just crack the window and leave him with a sippy cup.
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  • scoettoscoetto member
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    Did you ask if he was ok with you going? Sometimes when I'm sick I'd rather have a few moments alone. Just baby me up before you go & baby me up when you get back. Otherwise I'm ok with being alone.
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  • andyandhillaryandyandhillary member
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    Um, no.  Not at all.  He is a grown man and will not die while you are gone.Party on, Wayne.  Party on. 
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  • julezleejulezlee
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    Did you guys get to go to the game while you were here? I wasn't sure if the rain screwed things up for you. Give him lots of snacks, tissue, some gatorade and turn on the TV for him. I'm sure he'll be good like that for a couple hours. Oh, and drug him before you leave.
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  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    When I'm sick, I like to be alone in my misery. He might not mind if you go.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    Of course,  he says I can go.  He is not one to ever tell me I can't do anything.  So I'm not sure if he means it or not.He has had a lot of alone time while I'm at work.






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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    Jules - yes we did get to go.  It was a great game.   We got really wet on Saturday walking around the city.






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  • notquiteblushingnotquiteblushing member
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    OMG go.  I like to be alone in my misery when I'm sick.  As long as he has plenty of fluids and the remote I would say have fun.  No point in you both suffering.
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  • sucrets4sucrets4 member
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    DH says "feed him some nyquil and wait for him to pass out".  I had to read him the post and cew's comment.
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    Sucrets - You'd buy my mothering advice book, wouldn't you?
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    I love the response sucrets.  DH said he took a PM, so we will be out soon enough. I'm still on the fence about going.  An hour ago I was excited, now I'm getting too comfortable.  I'm off tomorrow, so it's not like I have to be up early.






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  • sucrets4sucrets4 member
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    cew - hells yeah.  I'm sure it'd be better than Jenny McCarthy's.  Apparently she has a funny pregnancy book but DH won't let me read it b/c she's a freak who doesn't vaccinate her kids.I kid, I could read it if I wanted.
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    Okay. Well, I'm going to start writing it right now. By the time you have baby Sucrets, I should have atleast 4 and a half pages written.
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  • sucrets4sucrets4 member
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    Sweet.  Can you email all 4 pages to me?
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    I'll try. But it might clog up your inbox. Not because of the length, but because of all of the insight.
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  • saschaduransaschaduran
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    I will buy your book cew! I am a bad wife....my husband got me a beautiful card and a wedding band for our annoversary (I only wore the engagement ring before). I did not get him a gift because I couldnt figure out what I wanted to get him. And I completely FORGOT to buy a card. I win the worst wife award.
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  • lyndausvilyndausvi mod
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    Do not be so hard on yourself Sasha.. You are a wonderful wife. That said, your story reminds me that DH was sick on our anniversary.  No card, no gift, no dinner, no make up dinner, card or gift.   Umm I should have gone out.but I got too comfortable and decided to stay in.






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  • saschaduransaschaduran
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    Uh oh! Maybe you should get dressed and go out:) He insisted he didn't want a present but I think he was looking forward to the card. I bought one, but I want to wait and give it to him with the present if I can ever figure that part out. He knows I am a complete flake at times..he didn't seem mad at all.
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