RSVP related vent long

sarlah · October 2009

So my RSVP's are due back in 2 days, Oct. 31, and more than half of the people we invited haven't sent their RSVP back. I know, I know - everyone said that stuff like this happens, people just don't send them, and it's usually the people you least expect - I know. All of that is true.I'm just so disappointed, we sent out around 85 invites, less than 40 have sent their RSVP back, and 90% of those people are all from FI's list. About 10 people from my list have had the courtesy to send theirs back.Here's the even better part - we have gotten absolutely ZERO "Yes" responses. Everyone who is coming (there are people coming) just says "Oh, you know we're coming, I don't need to send it back." And it's like, yes, I do know you're coming, and I'm so happy for that - but can you please just help me out here and drop the already stamped envelope in the d@mn mail!?!?!?!?I mean, am I that much of a doormat that people just don't give a sh!t about me and my feelings?? Really?! Is that it? I'm so mad at my whole family right now, most of the reason we are having an AHR is because we wanted our extended family & friends to be able to celebrate with us - I just want to cancel the AHR now and tell every to screw off. I know I can't do that, I'm just venting. I know life goes on after a wedding and you don't want to burn your bridges... I know. I'm just so hurt by their lack of consideration and respect for us (well, mainly me). I went through our list and almost all of FI's list has RSVP'd. There are still 2 days, some miracle could occur and I could suddenly be flooded with RSVP's in the mail - but somehow I doubt it. *sigh* I should have listened to FI and kept it immediate family only.

Bigwuhead · October 2009

That really sucks. My bridal shower is next Saturday, and 2 days before the RSVP date, of the 60 people invited, 30 hadn't RSVP'd. Gee thanks, makes me feel great. I am now trying to think of a great plan for RSVP's for the invites so that people will send them back.

SimplyMistaken · October 2009

Sorry you are going through this-and I must admit you made me even feel guilty cause I can't tell you how many events I did not RSVP for and said the dreaded "oh you know i am coming, do I need to RSVP?" I am terrible with those things...! Coming from somone who is terrible at it..we don't mean to hurt you or disrespect you, i promise..! we love you!

FutureMrs.McC · October 2009

Sarah - Don't take it personally! My RSVP date was a month ago and at least half didn't bother. It's unbelievable! I didn't contact any of them and am hoping we'll have a better response with our AHR. I need an exact number for that and don't want to call 100+ people! People are such A-holes!

Weluvcake · October 2009

I so understand your feelings. Sending you some good ==Vibes==.

ginaherman6 · October 2009

{{{{HUGS}}}} RSVPs suck! I had the same problem...most of my friends didn't bother to respond even after I sent them messages that I needed to know one way or another. It's almost like they think they'll hurt our feelings by actually checking the No box (or that's the dillusional thing I tell myself to make it better) . Out of all my friends and family that are NOT coming, only one sent the RSVP back with a no. Even the ppl who are coming sent most of them back late. I had to email ppl to get their food choices - and was point blank - what do you want to eat or we are not feeding you. Trust me, there is nothing you can do but not take it personally and forget about it.

gabi829 · October 2009

How ruuuudde! I hope everything works out, but you might have a long few nights ahead of you calling people to remind them to RSVP. I hope that your wedding and AHR are great and you have lots of fun once this RSVP business is past.After fi and I sent out STDS, we invited everybody on the invite list to a private group on facebook. This helps to disseminate reminders and keep the event fresh in people's minds. Also, guests can see who else is coming!

Orchid2011 · October 2009

I'm not there yet... But I understand how you're feeling. Don't let that stress you, things will work out just fine you'll see! Keep us posted I'm curious to know if they do it late or not at all. :::Hugs:::

mastistyle · October 2009

Sarah-I am so sorry you have to deal with this. Not fun at all! My RSVP date was Oct 1-we got back 23 RSVPs cards out of 125 that were sent! I knew I wouldn't get 100% back-but it was awful. We aren't even having an AHR-so I was getting so upset that people couldn't come to the wedding much less send the prestamped card back in the mail. In the end we are having 52 people coming-and 4 literally just booked this past week (the wedding is less thana month). Get your BP ready and next week start making calls, sending emails etc. I know it is easier said than done-but just let it roll off your shoulders. I look back at it now-and all the RSVP related meltdowns were not worth it. Hang in there!

sarlah · October 2009

My freak out has officially backfired on me, my black karma is working itself out on me right now:1. found a hair in my lunch :(2. I have a headache (frequently happens when I get this upset)3. My throat is feeling funny, feeling congested, and like I'm getting a fever.Ok, Life, you win!ps: it did make me very happy to hear that Normailed & Nick made it to Barcelona! Woohoo!

ericandcindy · October 2009

I know exactly how you feel. And FI's big thing was the fact that we paid for postage. One thing that helped especially when we were leaving messages after the RSVP date (because yes they won't answer those either) is to say that you would really like the RSVP's back because you're using them as keepsakes. Who TF cares what type of keepsake or how, it just pushed more people to finally send them in. Again not 100%, but more than had originally. GL Sarah!