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JP hurdle~~~~help pls!

MermaidChickMermaidChick member
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I love my future inlaws, but I am at a cross roads.

My fiance and I are getting married by a JP, which is not posing the problem. The fact that she is a woman is. His family doesn't like the idea of a female JP, and have expressed their "thoughts" on the matter.

I am totally comfortable with the person we have picked, but I also don't want there to be an issue at the wedding.

Any thoughts of how I can say something as to not upset his side?
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Re: JP hurdle~~~~help pls!

  • jmestylejmestyle member
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    edited December 2011
    Ignore them! You are the one thats getting married not them

    I'm having issues with my future step MI as well.It sucks
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  • SuMmErKuTiESuMmErKuTiE member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm sorry they're acting like this over your officiant. Just take a deep breath and remember that the person who marries you should be someone picked by you and your FI and who you're comfortable with. That's all that matters, not your friend's opinions.. or your parents.. or grandparents.. just you and FI.

    Hopefully they'll let it go and realize that this wedding isn't about them, it's about you and your FI and who you want to marry you.
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  • KellyJayDKellyJayD
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    edited December 2011

    Ugh that sucks! I would just politely say oh we have already booked our JP and we really like her and are comfortable with her etc. She is marrying you and your FI not them.

    Hopefully they don't mention again after that.

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  • megbrooks2011megbrooks2011 member
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    edited December 2011
    I would just talk about how amazing she is...and all the wonderful things that she is doing to get to know you and FI.  Talk about the connection you had with her.  And how excited you are to be getting married by her.  Eventually they have to be excited to.

    You are way braver then me.  I'm going with the whole shock and AWE factor with the FIL.  FI and I were both raised Roman Catholic and we are getting married in an Episcopalian Church...we figured they wouldn't know the difference because there are crosses everywhere...until we met the Rev.who also happens to be a woman.  I don't think that's going to get pass even his 90 year old Nona.  Should be interesting.
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  • beach11beach11
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    edited December 2011
    I agree!  Just tell then that this is the JP that your FI and you chose to marry you.  You both like her a lot and it was your decision. Period!
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  • christikaochristikao
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    edited December 2011

    I would just tell them it's 2010 and having a woman JP is not that shocking.

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  • starrbuk13starrbuk13 member
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    edited December 2011
    honestly, i wouldn't say anything to them.  they'll get over it.  like the other girls have said, it's important that you and FI are in love with your JP, not that his parents are.  if they keep harping on it, i think it's your FI"s place to tell his parents to butt-out (unless they're footing the bill....)
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  • ggmaeggmae member
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    edited December 2011
    Welcome them to the 21st century and then tell them (kindly) to get over it.
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