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Freaking Out about RSVP's!

allielle_731allielle_731
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Hey All,

I am looking for some advice....we invited 230 people and we are required by the reception hall to pay for 200 people as a minimum. My fiancee and I are getting married on Saturday, March 26, 2011. We decided this date on our own 9 months ago. We have sent out 120 invitations, and the RSVP date is up this Friday, March 11th, 2011. We only have 90 that has replied!

We were figuring we would have 135-150 actually show to the wedding, but not this low of replies with only 2-3 days left to send in the RSVP cards.

So I was wondering what is expected (this is our first wedding for both of us), will people show up unannounced to wedding and reception? Or did I miscalculate how many people would actually come to the ceremony & reception? How many people should I have counted on?

Most of our guests are local and not out of town or state at all! So maybe this has to do with the economy or something, or I am just freaking out way too much over this.  Our original plan was to go to the Outerbanks and get married with a small wedding, now I am regretting a little bit about doing a big wedding and I did a big wedding because that is what my parents had wanted me to do. So I don't know anymore.

Thanks for all of your help!!

-Alicia
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Re: Freaking Out about RSVP's!

  • 031107031107
    100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    For the guests that didn't RSVP, I called them.  I asked if they were planning on coming and if so, what dinner they wanted.  They would say "sorry, we forgot to send it back" and I would explain the process and why it was needed by a certain date.  I found that unless they had gotten married in the past 5 years or had a kid that married in the past 5 years - they were totally clueless about the wedding process and didn't understand why RSVP are needed.
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  • ayamm1123ayamm1123 member
    Knottie Warrior 100 Comments
    edited December 2011
    You should call those that have not RSVP's.  This can be designated to immediate family members to make calls as well if you need assistance.    That is an unusually high number of no responses, but each wedding is different and there is no one right formula/%/etc of yes/no responses.  GL!
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  • JKohioJKohio member
    Knottie Warrior 1000 Comments Combo Breaker
    edited December 2011
    I think most people (mistakenly) think that the RSVP date us the postmark date and they mail their RSVP on that date. I would allow 2 or 3 days beyond the RSVP date for those last minute ones to come in. If you don't hear from them by then, go ahead and call them for their response or have family members help with that -- divide up the list if there are a lot of non-responders.
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  • soontobemrs2soontobemrs2 member
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    If you invited 230, statistically you can count on about 75%-85% coming. So maybe expect 170-195 to actually show up
    It's normal for people to be late to RSVP. Divide out the bad boys/girls amongst family members and call

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