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Bridal shower etiquette question

2012FutureMrsB2012FutureMrsB member
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If a family member throws you a bridal shower and the shower is ONLY for family members, then it really doesn't matter that you're technically breaking the etiquette rule, right? My sister is going to throw me a shower the day before my wedding b/c ALL of my family members live out of state and will only be there the weekend of the wedding. We've told the ladies in our family (which isn't a large group) and they are perfectly ok with it.
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Re: Bridal shower etiquette question

  • RebeccaB88RebeccaB88 member
    2500 Comments Fifth Anniversary 500 Love Its 5 Answers
    You don't have to call it a shower, if you're worried about that.  You can have a luncheon, tea, or just a party with your family if you want.  I think the 'no family member' thing is more relaxed now than it used to be.  I wouldn't think twice about my sister throwing a shower for me.  My mother, no, but my sister, fine.
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  • FutureMrsMDJahnkeFutureMrsMDJahnke
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    I read somewhere, I think on theknot, but not sure, that it is perfectly acceptable these days to have family members throw you a bridal shower. Even your mom!
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  • bunni727bunni727 member
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    Nowadays, even a mother throwing a shower is not considered a huge deal, since most brides now don't get married straight from their parents' homes.

    But I wouldn't even pause at a sister throwing a shower, that seems more than fine.
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  • brilibby4brilibby4 member
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    edited April 2012
    I don't think it is considered poor etiquette to host a shower for a family member anymore.  You should be all set :)
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  • Lang125Lang125
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    My mom and 2 sisters are throwing mine.   My godmother (aunt) lives out of town and she is coming to help.   But I thiink nowadays if someone offers to throw you one, even your mom, it should be fine.  I am not close to any of my aunts that live in-town and wouldn't expect them to want to throw one for me.
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  • 2012FutureMrsB2012FutureMrsB member
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    Thanks for the responses! I wasn't too worried about etiquette or offending anyone since it's a family only event anyway. But there is this lady in my carpool who kinda got on my nerves a while back, so that's why I wanted to get y'alls feedback.

    She is helping to plan a wedding for her son, so we talk a lot about wedding stuff in the car (she's invited to my wedding, so I share some details with her). Well, the shower came up and she was very insistent that family members cannot throw showers, even though I told her it's for family only, so it really doesn't matter. Now I can more confidently stand my ground and tell her it definitely is ok (not that I need her approval, but it just kinda annoyed me).

    Thanks again!
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  • Kristin789Kristin789 member
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    Tell her that the shower is supposed to be hosted by the MOH and BMs, and that's why your sister is hosting.
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