Poll For Bridesmaids and Brides:

kpeteley · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?:2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?:3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?:4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?:5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?:6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?:7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?:8.Any other comments or questions?:

starzbu23 · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Yes, unfortunately 2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: I really did 3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: I dont think it was sexy4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Not at all, nor did I ever really think that way 5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: No 6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: Myself and another bridemaids tried to offer other suggestions for different dresses, but the bride got her way. We just smiled and pretended to be happy for her. 7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Yes8.Any other comments or questions?: No

cknud112 · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Yes 2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Yes 3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: Yes 4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Not a concern of mine 5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: No 6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: Did not say anything 7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Absolutely 8.Any other comments or questions?: Personally, I don't understand why some brides would pick out ugly dresses b/c it is a reflection of them, not their BMs. I tend to think they just have bad taste (to each his/her own) and are not doing it purposely to make their girls look badly.

kewltif · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: I've only been a BM once and while a pretty dress I did not think it was flattering on my body type.2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?:Yes. I really wanted them to look good!3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?:Yes, more so than most BM dresses.4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?:From me no. How is it possible? I'm in a bit white dress. I wanted them to look good. It's funny because supposedly my one BM was concerned about "looking too good."5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?:No. I think it was just a style the bride liked and I wasn't the only person she was concerned with.6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?:I was vocal while we were shopping and told her if there were dresses I hated. 7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?:I would never wear a BM dress to another event anyway (unless it was like a J Crew dress or something) so that wasn't a concern. I am willing to pay more for a dress I like though.8.Any other comments or questions?:What's the problem you're dealing with?

ChloeMarie · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?:I didn't absolutely hate it, but I wouldn't have picked it2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?:YES!3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?:A bit, it's strapless, and A line. Nothing really out of the ordinary though4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?:No we're going to look completely different5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?:No, I didn't get that impression at all6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?:Nope it's her day, I'll wear the stupid dress. lol7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?:I'm ok even if I can't wear the dress again. As long as the price tag isn't totally out of control, like $500 or something like that

ffbride_0813 · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: yes2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Yes. They can pick their own dress from davids bridal in the color i choose and fabric i choose.3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: N/A but the one I want MOH to wear is slightly sexy4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: No. This is stupid. You are the bride in the big white dress that knows most everyone in the party. its hard to outshine that.5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: No6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: No but i spoke up for my friends sisters who hated a dress and thought it made them look horrific (it did)7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Yes8.Any other comments or questions?:

Rosanna'n'Steve · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: N/A never been a BM2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: I let them try on about 6 or 7 dresses that i picked out and they all came with me and tried on each dress and told me which one they liked. They all happened to love the same dress so it was pretty seamless. 3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: No 4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: No, I wanted the bm's to look good and i'm the bride so no one will outshine the bride. 5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: N/A6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: N/A7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: I'm sure i wouldn't mind paying more if I could wear it again. 8.Any other comments or questions?:

uppereastgirl · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Oh god yes2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Yes3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: No4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: No. I mean, I had some really pretty bridesmaids, but they look nice if they look nice. I felt no competition with them at all.5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: No, and why would someone do that? Would a bride really want her bridal party to look awful in the pictures she'll be looking at for the next 50 years?6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: No. My opinion wasn't solicited, and even so, I wouldn't have spoken up. 7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Yes. Or for a dress that I wouldn't wear again but that I felt I looked really nice in that day.8.Any other comments or questions?:

I <3 Seabass · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: N/A2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Yes, I don't get the concept of wanting your BM to look bad, why would I want to look at fugly dresses?3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: No4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Nope. I don't get this either.5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: n/a6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: n/a7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: yes8.Any other comments or questions?: No

uppereastgirl · November 2009

Tiff, you have to be kidding about your BM who thought that she might look too good. I don't care if she's Giselle, she maybe needs to get over herself???

misskris927 · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: YES 2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Absolutely 3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: No- not the look I was going for.... 4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: No 5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: I hope not.... 6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: Nope..I kept my mouth shut b/c it's her day not mine and I agreed to be part of her wedding. 7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Maybe..depends on the dress 8.Any other comments or questions?: N/A

dmoney79 · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: i've only been a bm twice...once for my sister, and i LOVED the dress, but, the material made it not the most flattering for me, b/c it was kind of clingy, and there were no spanx back then....so what i had to wear underneath wasn't the best....for the other, we got to pick our own from db in a certain color....this one i found more flattering for me, just a simple a line dress2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: i did...i had one bm in az, i sent her the picture to make sure she liked it and fit her criteria (straps and could wear a bra with it)....i think the dress looked good on all my girls....but definately took all their comments and concerns about the dresses in consideration3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: i don't know if it was sexy...the neck line might have been too low for some, but my sil had it closed up a bit....4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: not really, but, a few of my girls are busty, so i was just worried they'd be showing a lot of cleavage....but they didn't....5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: not at all...and i don't understand why anyone would do that...it would ruin all your pictures, no? to put your bms in a horrible unflattering dress? 6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: yes....and it was fine....the 2 weddings i was in were my sister's and bff's....so i was ok with telling them if i liked a dress or not 7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: yeah...i would...i wore my sister's dress again for something, and i was considering wearing my other bm dress this weekend (i have a black tie wedding to go to, but i'd have to get the dress altered).....but i'd also pay more if its just a dress i loved8.Any other comments or questions?: i wish i had purchased my bm's dress for myself! i loved it so much....

kewltif · November 2009

It was a comment she made to another BM, not me. She was like, "Do you think Tif is going to be worried that we look so good?!" LOL I wanted them to look good!My BM dresses did fall on the sexier end of the spectrum though, and there was some cleavage going on, so that's where I think the comment came from.

kpeteley · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Yes - 2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: 100% Yes, and I wanted it to be a dress they could wear again.3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: yes, but not slutty sexy.4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Not at all - I think a great looking bridal party is awesome.5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: No, but I don't know if the effort was made to make me look good.6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: Not outright said I hate, but suggested others.7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Absolutely8.Any other comments or questions?: I am in the midst of picking out a dress fom my friends wedding. I am the only bridal party member and would like a dress that I feel good in and could possibly wear again. Since I am willing to spend more money for a dress I like, it seems like it should be easy. Just frustrating, and I feel like I took so much into consideration for my BM's.

FutureMrs.Cingire · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Yup!2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: I didn't try that hard...but I think they all look great in the dress I picked!3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: I think some might consider it sexy4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Not at all5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: maybe6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: I kept my mouth shut!7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: sure why not8.Any other comments or questions?: I think my friends were more concerned about their color combos than style of dress...I guess everyone is different.

30may09bride · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Not really, I had one dress that I didn't love on me, but that was only bc it was ordered way too big and not altered well. 2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Yes, which is why I let them pick their own styles3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: My girls picked their own dresses, but some were on the low cut side. DH did make the comment that when they were walking down the aisle of the church, he thought there was a lot of boobs going on with my girls. 4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Not at all. 5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: Nope6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: Certainly spoke out during the picking process, but was always fine with the end choice7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Sure8.Any other comments or questions?:

allymp13 · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Yes!2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Hell Yeah!3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: Most BM dresses I orginally picked were on the sexier side the one we ended up with I would not consider sexy or traditional, it's somewhere in the middle.4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Puh-lease, not a chance5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: No, but maybe not a lot of thought put in it.6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: No way!7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?:Yes!8.Any other comments or questions?:

caketime · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Oh yeah2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Absolutely, I basically let them pick it.3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: Not sexy but figure flattering and as one said - it just makes me feel good.4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Not even remotely - hello big white dress5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: Not necessarily6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: Yes, and she said if we don't get this one than the other BM won't be in it. So even though 2 out of the 3 of you don't like it we are getting it.7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Sure8.Any other comments or questions?:

Partymixx27 · November 2009

1.Did you ever have a dress picked out for you that you felt was not attractive?: Nope, I've been lucky. Twice, I was able to pick my own and another time it was a pretty dress, although not something I'd have picked myself.2.Did you as a bride try hard to ensure that your bm's looked good in their dress?: Yup - I picked the color and let the girls choose their own styles3.Did you pick out a dress some would consider sexy?: Only if you consider strapless sexy - they were more "classy".4.Was their a concern that your bm's would "outshine" you on your day?: Not at all! I wanted them to look beautiful5.As a BM, did you feel like a dress was picked out for you so that you didn't look as good?: No6.Did you speak up as a BM if you hated a dress / if so, how was it taken by bride?: I'd speak up if I hated a dress, but if it wasn't my favorite I'd just grin and bear it.7.Would you as a BM rather pay more for a dress if you would consider wearing it at another event?: Yes8.Any other comments or questions?: Interesting that so many of us have had to endure dresses we didn't like but are making sure we don't do the same to our girls. Seems to be a positive trend lately about brides being more open minded and "anything goes" rather than some of the hideous matchy-matchy styles BMs were forced to wear in the past!

uppereastgirl · November 2009

"8.Any other comments or questions?: Interesting that so many of us have had to endure dresses we didn't like but are making sure we don't do the same to our girls. Seems to be a positive trend lately about brides being more open minded and "anything goes" rather than some of the hideous matchy-matchy styles BMs were forced to wear in the past! "Interesting point PartyMixx. But in the case where I had to wear a dress that I -- and the majority of the bridal party -- thought was fug and awful, I don't think it was a matter of the bride not caring enough to pick a cute dress, I think it was more a matter of her having really different (and I would actually say kind of bad) taste generally. I know that she really liked the dress, and that's absolutely what matters. I'm sure that happens a lot even where the bride thinks everyone would like it (and to be honest, I've seen a bunch of bridesmaid dresses here that I definitely would not want to wear, and I'm sure a bunch of people don't like the BM dress my girls wore -- everyone has different taste).

amy232323 · November 2009

1. OH yes!2. Yes definitely3. Not really4. No5. No that sounds silly to me6. No way, it is was her day7. Yes definitely more worth the money

cknud112 · November 2009

Agree with V. Although I thought my BM dresses were beautiful (and my girls seemed to as well), perhaps some of them really didn't like them or they weren't necessarily their "taste" but they just didn't tell me.

allymp13 · November 2009

I know my one BM hates the dress and had no problem voicing that over and over again. I decided to give them all a choice of 4 dresses and 3 of the 4 four picked the dress she hated.

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