however, we've been together almost 20 years, have raised our children together, and finally decided to make it 'official'. So we're trying to come up with vows that reflect that we've been through a LOT together, and this union makes us both 'officially' step parents (of adults who luckily love and support us). I just need some idea of vows that don't just promise we're going to be there for one another, because we've done all that, but reflect that we'll continue to be there for one another.
Any ideas are welcome!