i need help!!

snow_angel03_99 · November 2009

My wedding is in 38 days and i just found out that my dad is a little upset that i didn't put my 2 sisters in the wedding party. they are 16 and 13 so i thought like the maybe having them do like the guest book and such. the 13 y/o wants to make my cake for the bridal shower so i figured that would be good. he's upset since i have my niece and my fiances niece be the flower girls and his nephew be the ring bearer. my oldest brother was going to dj and my other 2 brothers usher so NOW i need to find something for the girls to do in a little amount of time!! any clues as to what to do????

Liz4444 · November 2009

can they walk you mother or your grandparents down the aisle?

gottahavashorti · November 2009

How do your sisters feel about it? From your post it sounds like beyond the 13 year old wanting to make a cake, it's just your dad that's offended. If that's the case, don't worry about it but maybe have the photographer take a few cute pictures of you with your sisters during family photos.

banana468 · November 2009

Can they do a reading? I'd say 'tasks' aren't a way to honor them but if they did something at the ceremony that would be lovely. Just out of curiosity though, how do they feel?

anitascrewdriver · November 2009

One option if you REALLY wanna play nice is :Get em matching dresses at forever 21 that are the bridesmaids accent colors for like 20 bucks a piece, and lil bouquets and let them walk down the isle just before the bridesmaids to their SEATS. but still with the bridal party. And let them be in some of the photos and call them honorary bridesmaids.

Leah&Christian09 · November 2009

Talk to them and see how they feel about it. If it's just your dad, you can tell him that you discussed it with them, they're fine, the WP is set, and it's cool. If they are really feeling left out and you really want to include them, you can add them as BMs. Get a dress from a department store that matches your colors off the rack and go with it. Since they are younger, it would make sense that they would have something cut age appropriate that is different from the rest of the BMs. You still have plenty of time to add bouquets. Alternatively, you could add them as readers, performers in the ceremony (if they are talented) or as ushers.Don't ask them to be guest book attendants, program holders, cake cutters, or any other job. Those aren't an honor, they are just jobs. Working for you is not an honor. Standing up for you is.

bablingbrooke · November 2009

I have a feeling that 13 and 16 year olds would have said something looooooong before this if it was a problem. Unless you hear it from the horse's mouth, don't stress. And giving them token jobs won't really help. How about taking them with you for hair/nails if you're doing them professionally, take lots of pictures at the reception, etc.

Simply Fated · November 2009

I would definitely ask them how they feel.... they're old enough to tell you if they feel hurt or left out. If it's just your dad that's upset, then tell him to chill (but use nicer wording, lol)If they do want to be included, then, well, that one girl said she would be happy making the cake.. is that enough for her? I would just ask them how they would like to be included. If they do say they want to be bridemaids, someone said you can take them to get inexpensive dresses. Or even maybe their own corsages or flowers or something.But so far it seems like only your father has an issue...

dsouldiva · November 2009

I like bablingbrooke's idea

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