My FI and I have been going back and forth about the kind of wedding we want (we considered big (with large families on both sides it's a given) and traditional and it's just not us), also we aren;t really party people so a reception with music and dancing and (god forbid) games of any sort would put both of us over the edge. Soooo...we've come up with the following solution: 1) We want a large ceremony where we invite our entire guest list (as of now, 150 people) and incorporate reception elements (some drinks, appetizers, cake, toasts) so that people still have time to see us and talk but it doesn't monopolize our day (also, we're not having a registry and not asking people for gifts so i don't think they'll be offended that there's no traditional reception. Besides that, we're giving them free booze and food. They really can't complain.) Also, the most important part of this entire wedding IS the ceremony. It seems like no one cares about anything except the party and it's really irritating. Anyway though, moving on... 2) we want to follow the ceremony with a small, private, dinner with immediate family and friends (probably no more than 30 people) where we can be surrounded by the people who really mean the most to us. 3) Post-dinner, we want to re-open the celebration to all of our guests. We're thinking a fun night downtown. Maybe bar-hopping, or renting out a private room at corner alley, or something along those lines. Does any of this sound strange or do you think people will be offended? Can anyone think of any other reception elements that people might like to see incorporated into the post-ceremony time? Thanks!