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So how do I do this.

I just am not loving our pictures. Noodle is also pretty "eh" about them. The more I look at them, the more I wish I'd gone with someone different. It isn't a personal thing (although they didn't seem to take direction well when I said multiple times that I didn't want a lot of typical poses, we wanted something fun and a little crazy and different and maybe even a tad edgy), but their style just isn't going to cut it for me. And I don't want to try telling them again what we want, and hoping they finally get it in time for the wedding, because if they don't I'll be ten kinds of pissed. They're nice enough pictures, they just don't pop at me. Cue my mom, who hates the pictures. Like, haaaaaaaates the pictures. So much so that she is insisting on paying for us to get a new photographer (we were on a budget and what she's offering to pay for will let us get a much better photog). Even eating the deposit, we'd be saving money by not paying the remainder, and we'd be getting a better photog out of it. So how do I notify the current one that we're going to be going with someone else? I know they're going to probably want to know why, and I'm HORRIBLE at stuff like that. Do I just say that their style isn't want we're looking for? What if they say that they will fix it (which I don't think they will, considering how often I told them exactly what we wanted and they didn't do it)?
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Re: So how do I do this.

  • Yup, just let them know that their style isn't exactly what you're looking for and you're changing vendors.I would do it in writing, probably send it via certified mail. You can follow up a phone call with that letter, just to make it official.
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  • Yeah, just tell them they aren't your style and that you're going with someone else.  Doing it in writing will save you the confrontational - and it is will be in writing, obviously.
  • What if they say that they will fix it (which I don't think they will, considering how often I told them exactly what we wanted and they didn't do it)?"You're either inexperienced in the style of photography we're interested in or you are incapable of following directions.  Either way, I don't believe this will be helpful to me.  Thanks for your time."
  • Ditto "do it in writing". You don't want them hounding you for extra money you have no intention of giving them.I think saying you want to go in a different direction is fine. If they really start giving you crap about it, then maybe let your mom be the fall guy: "Listen, my mother has decided to pay for a photographer, and she would prefer me using somebody else". There's probably a better way to say that, but I've got cookies in the oven, so my brain is contemplating the soon-to-be-deliciousness.

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  • I would just tell them like pp said. It will be uncomfortable but you will be so angry if you hate your wedding pics or even that you are disappointed with your engagement pics is enough. The photography was a big deal to me. What are you looking for?
  • I'd also mention something like, "We enjoyed working with you/we don't plan on trashing you all over the interwebs so don't worry."
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  • We really wanted more of a photojournalistic look. The Knottie below has the exact type of pictures we wanted - she's definately more stylish and urban than I am, but the energy and quirkiness and sense of them as a couple is what we wanted. Comparing that to the pictures I have is kind of like comparing ground chuck to prime rib - they're both meat and they'll both fill you up, but who's going to pick ground chuck over prime rib? [url]http://tinyurl.com/pombaj[/url]
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  • I wanted something artistic and fun too so I looked two different organizations and found my photog through there.They are both on his site.http://www.jasonconnel.com/on the homepage, you can see the links and chose a photog in your area, if you are looking for a new one.
  • If you haven't found a new photographer you like, I recommend Jennifer Nace Photography (jennifernace.come) Her style is a lot like the pics in the bio you linked.
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  • Dear Photographer,Unfortunately, Noodle had decided that he doesn't want to get married.  We will be shacking up and living in sin instead.  I realize that we lose our deposit, but this is what Big Noodle wants. And what Noodle wants, Noodle gets.I actually blame you a little.Sincerely,Nugget
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