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WR, Sorry

This is specific enough it deserves a post.  My cousin, second cousin, and two aunts are giving me a shower. They are all trying to be really accommodating with what I want.  It feels really awkward to me. I got an email asking me the date, where I want it, what cake I want, what food I want, and who I want to attend.  I don't know.  Just do it.  I don't care. 
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Re: WR, Sorry

  • The question part is, how do I politely not plan the whole damn thing?
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  • Tell them you love surprises.
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  • I would just give them a guest list and general information besides that. Then at least it would give them a bit of a structure to work with.
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  • Yeah, you should at least give them a guest list.
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  • It's a family shower.  My 87 year old grandma is coming.  It's not like I'm going to invite non-family.
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  • Hahaha I'd just tell them that then. :)
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  • I sent what was, I hope, a very polite email.  It just seemed weird to me.  Thanks girls.
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  • Give them 2-3 suggestions on dates, and tell them you are fine with something small and simple. Then ask what THEY suggest as far as time of day, how many guests they can accommodate, and where would it be more convenient for them. When they give you a suggestion on number of guests, give them a guest list close to that number. If they ask what kind of cake, tell them if you like white, chocolate, or if you prefer cupcakes. If they ask what kind of food, mention a couple of simple items that you really like, or suggest they keep it to simple finger foods. If they question any of your suggestions, remind them they are the hostesses, it's really up to them, and you will be happy with whatever they choose. Or ask "Why, what did you have in mind?"
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