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How mad will my venue be?

cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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This is the deal.No less than 8 per table, no more than 12 per table.I have 1 table with 7, 1 table with 13.  I have tried EVERYTHING to move it around I cannot, its important family.1 of the people on the table of 13 is someone who stated on his RSVP back to us "I will not be arriving till around 730 - 8 pm so please don't included me on your caterer count" (CLUELESS MUCH?)Think they will cause a stink? (venue that is about the numbers at table)
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  • jaimelodyjaimelody
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    edited December 2011
    No. It's only 2 tables. They might tell you to move the table of 13 bc it might be uncomfortable for your guests though - but since someones coming late... It's not like you sat 7 people at 9 tables and could have clearly made it 8 tables. That's IMO.
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  • Amerz20Amerz20 member
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    edited December 2011
    I don't know if you venue really will be mad, but there is no way...no way? 13 at a table seems crunched to me. When  had 12 at a table it looked really filled. Also I would still include this extra person who is late. What if they want dessert, or want to sit? What about adding another table and breaking a different table up?
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    There is no way, at all, the 13 is Dan's parents/aunts uncles, they don't want to sit with the cousins/siblings, and i can't split 13 without it being under as well.  Trust me I tried EVERYTHING it sucks i know.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    I also am including them, I was just stating the funny response and that he was part of the 13.
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    Check with the venue to see if they could do a slightly bigger table or maybe a rectangle?
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    I think as long as they are close enough to that table it will be ok.   Maybe have Dan's parents "warn" them ahead of time.  That seemed to work well for us and people would say oh we understand with the one or two we might have an issue with.
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  • caketimecaketime
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    edited December 2011
    Well then surprise surprise :)
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    I am going to talk to my venue first before I decide, see how big the tables are before i decide, the 8 person table was very roomy, but I haven't seen a 12.
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  • I <3 SeabassI <3 Seabass
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    edited December 2011
    I have no advice, just wanted to say that I am not looking forward to doing the seating chart.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Steph it wasn't as bad as i thought it would be, plus my seating is weird, Dan's was a piece of cake (minus 13 lol)
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    What time does your wedding start? I might not bother including that one person in the count.What can they be mad about? You cannot physically fit them at one table. Split them into two tables and add a few other people to each table.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Tiff trust me I would have no problem doing that, but people like to complain loudly and obviously about things not being their way.  I would just have to take 2 people out of one table and move them to another table.  Wedding is at 6 pm, I am speaking to my venue about the inclusion of that person, I think no matter what I am including them.On and the family tables on that side go 131010
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    So decided instead of me being the "bad person" Dan is at his parents with his siblings I sent him a text with"we need to move someone from your parents/aunts uncles table to the cousins/siblings tables.  Pick the person, and the table"This way I have nothing to do with it! Yay!
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  • DS0305DS0305 member
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    edited December 2011
    First of all, how can they say you can have a minimum at each table? That's kinda weird. I can understand the max because there won't be enough room, but how can there be a min? For that one it's easy, just pretend there's 8 at the table and then surprisingly the 8th person just doesn't show up. That's not your fault if they "don't show up." But that sucks about the 13 person table. I can totally understand how it's hard to move everyone around to make it work. That's why I'm not looking forward to the seating chart part!
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Dana I think a no show would be okay (no one has control) but I think its to avoid someone doing all 6 tables, then there not being enough room. (Even though the room is huge)I'm sure the 7 person won't be an issue, the 13 I'm pissed about, but haha, not my problem anymore, its all Dans :)
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  • DS0305DS0305 member
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    edited December 2011
    Well if anyone complains at your wedding about it, make sure you make it clear that he determined the seats at that table haha.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Exactly Dana, I'm tired of being the bad one :)
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    I think you are much more likely to offend someone if you take 1 person from that table and randomly stick them elsewhere.  I would really just split up the two tables so half of the siblings are together and then add some cousins or distant relatives to each of those tables.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    No one is distant, everyone is really close.  All 3 tables are just siblings, first cousins (that we see all the time) parents/aunts uncles.Its kinda hard to explain.It goes like this...Mom Dad6 siblings all with guests, plus 2 kids. (14)Aunt Uncle 12 cousins no guestsAunt Uncle 22 cousins each with guests.Aunt Uncle 3No one elseUncle no guestGod father no guest (Dads best friend)Dads best friend no guest (late guy REALLY close to family)
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Posted too soon, that being said Tiff, I am leaving it up to Dan, Ive had enough tip toeing :)
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    I would put the really close family friends at another table.  They should be the most understanding and the least likely to pull a "I'm family and should have been at the head table!!" card. Right or wrong, I would just think they'd be the least likely to cause a problem.  Particularly the one who is coming late. 
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    Thought of that lol, Dan doesn't have any "family friends" othere than his god father and the late guy.
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  • kewltifkewltif member
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    edited December 2011
    I do not miss balancing tables! Such a headache.  I'm sure I pizzed some people off along the way.
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  • cherylanddan0706cherylanddan0706
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    edited December 2011
    LOL Tiff I know, Ive tried every way possible.  The only good thing is this.  The tables we would put all the family at are VERY close to our table which I think will avoid people saying "oh god why am I so far from them" if they are family.
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