wedding prezzies

lullabymommy · November 2009

My brother is getting married in Dec. and their bridal shower is tomorrow. I still haven't gotten them a gift because I'm confused about timing. Their honeymoon is going to be in Disney World and I really want to get them disney dollars (they are fake money you can use at disney world and have mickey, donald, etc on them) Would I give them this at their shower or wedding? Do I give them presents at both the shower and wedding or one?

ootmother2 · November 2009

I give something off the registry of the shower and cash for the wedding.

lyndausvi · November 2009

I've always given presents at both events.

banana468 · November 2009

I've always given a shower and a wedding gift. I've seen some Knotties say that they only give one but in my circle that doesn't cut it.For the shower, I'd give something that you're cool with them opening in front of everyone. That can be the Disney bucks but more often it's something for the home. I'd give them the Disney bucks for the wedding but make sure that you give it to them in advance so they can pack it with the honeymoon stuff.

LarissaAnn · November 2009

I do exactly what ootmother does.

lullabymommy · November 2009

my only issue for giving them presents at both the shower and the wedding is that I'm really, really broke right now (putting myself through school) and even though I'm 21 I'm worried I will look cheap if I break up my budget into 2 separate gifts

sucrets4 · November 2009

What's common in your area? Where I'm from, it's what oot does. Where my husband is from, they only give 1 gift total.

lyndausvi · November 2009

well if that is the case (heck, we have all been there). Give her the disney dollars for the shower so they have them for the HM and then maybe give them a gift after the wedding when you are able to save some money. I had to give a present a few months later. I felt bad, but the couple understood..

banana468 · November 2009

Ditto Lynda. When you're 21 and going through college, I think most people expect that you're not going to give the same as someone older.

lullabymommy · November 2009

suscret4: I have no clue what is common in my area. My family never buys off the registry and this is the first wedding I've been to since I was a little kid. I tried asking my mom and she lectured me that she is putting my name on her present but that makes me feel even more guilty =/

sucrets4 · November 2009

Ah, okay. I agree with pp then. I'd give them at the shower. Is it wrong that I'd do that b/c it more noticeable? No one knows who gives what at a wedding.

lyndausvi · November 2009

do not feel guilty if you mom wants to put you on the gift. I've put people on a gift when they did not have much money to pay. It was my pleasure because I was in their situation at one time. I think of it as 'paying forward'... In the future when you have the money you can do the same thing for someone else.

LarissaAnn · November 2009

Don't feel guilty at all! We totally didn't expect anything exorbitant from people at our wedding, especially the ones who were students or otherwise had financial obligations that weren't *us*.

sucrets4 · November 2009

And seriously, don't feel guilty. I was 18 when my bro got married. I don't think I got them anything. Call me a bad sister, I guess.

lullabymommy · November 2009

Cool, thanks. So then do you think that 30 disney dollars would be a good amount?

missy68 · November 2009

Your mom's heart is in the right place, putting your name on their gift, but I understand wanting to give a gift under your own name.I would do what a pp has suggested, and buy off the registry closer to the wedding or after the wedding so you can save for it, and buy what you can afford. Your brother knows you and knows your finances (well, at least he knows you're 21 and a student). I think the Disney Dollars would be a good shower gift and then they'll have it for their honeymoon. If you wanted to put something in the box with them, you could get two mugs with Disney characters on them and put the dollars in the mugs.Enjoy the shower!

lyndausvi · November 2009

It's very thoughtful.

Brie2010 · November 2009

I think that's a really nice gift. And seriously, don't worry about it! They will understand that you're still in school and money is tight. If you really want to do something, maybe arrange to do something like collect candid wedding photos from relatives and put them into a photo book after the wedding. Cheap and thoughtful!

missy68 · November 2009

Sounds like it would be good to me. That should take care of their food at the park or souvenirs for a day! That's a thoughtful gift.

coreybride127 · November 2009

Give Disney $ at the shower. Technically, you have a year to give a wedding gift, so maybe when you have some extra $, send a wedding gift.P.S. i am also from an area where a shower gift AND a wedding gift are a must

squirrly · November 2009

Disney Dollars at the shower. And then a card at the wedding. I would word it with a note that says you want to help them finish an item off the registry, once they get home and open all their gifts & see what they would most like/need. That buys you some extra time to save.

phoeny_moonstar · November 2009

I would get them something off the registry and a nice card with a bit of cash (disney maybe?) for the wedding.

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