I usually avoid this board, because it frustrates me. But I have been lurking this morning and I was just wondering, am I the only one without BM "problems"? I have not required my girls to do anything, and they have gone above and beyond anything I could have ever expected. I took all 4 of them shopping, and let them pick their own dresses, because I wanted them to all be comfortable with the price and style for their shapes. They all happened to pick the same dress. Fine. I have not asked them to help me with anything, and they are volunteering, because they WANT to. I don't treat it as a job for them, and they don't see it as such because I'm not requiring anything from them. I was a bit embarassed by the wonderful shower they threw me. Some of them have not met before this (one is out of state) but they took it upon themselves to find and contact each other to discuss what they could do for me and FI. It totally blew me away. I guess treating them with the same love and respect I always have is the trick to avoiding these "problems" (sarcasm). I am 100% aware that TK is here to help brides, and I am in no way attacking anyone. I want to help others the same as they have helped me when I needed advice. If I have any decent advice, I try to give it. So here it is- Lets lighten up a bit and remember what our wedding day is about, commiting to the love of our lives. None of us are entitled to anything, and our WP is there because we love them, not to be unpaid employees. In the end, it won't matter if the girls had the same dress, shoes, or hairstyle. It won't matter if you had 100 people at your shower, or if you had one at all. It won't matter if the DJ played a song you didn't like or if your flower girl refused to walk down the aisle. What will matter is that you are married to your best friend, and you made that commitment surrounded by people that love you. Have a beautiful day girls, and good luck to everyone