Okay, I'm going to ask you ladies what you think, because I trust you guys more than my local board and definitely more then my club board.
So, Fi graduated with his Masters of Architecture in May, and has since been trying his darndest to find a job. No such luck thus far because in this economy no one is building anything! Presently, we have decided that if his current job lead doesn't amount to anything that we are going to postpone our wedding for a while. This was a hard decision for us, but it is the responsible thing to do (and us as adults recognize this). The problem comes in that FMIL has been trying to get Justin to postpone our wedding for the entire last six months since May. Justin lives at home for now while hes looking for a job, so he puts up with her ridiculous tirades, but just basically ignores them (especially since she basically yells at him and lectures him like he is about 17). Our decision now to postpone was completely independent of FMIL and her opinion, and she doesn't even know that we have talked about postponing at this point; however, FMIL just threw in a little detail into the mix. She just told Justin that if he has a "good" job when we get married, then she will give us $5000 for our wedding, and if he doesn't she will give us $0. This is where Fi and me disagree. I think that under no circumstances should we accept this petty ransom money from FMIL (that is basically what it is...her trying to hold our wedding for ransom by getting us to do what she wants us to do). I think it would basically tell FMIL that she can control us with $$. Fi disagrees and says who cares if she thinks she has control, that we know she doesn't, and it would be stuck up to pass up the money and we should take it and not care what she thinks about it. I am interested to know what you ladies think about it. Thanks.