Bride's or Groom's name first? Help!

silverart · August 2010

Hi, my FI and I are hosting our wedding. we would like to include our parents names too. However, my list of invites are only 9, and his about 50. My name begin with J and his N.
He does everything to make me happy and satisfied. He says it doesnt matter how i word the invitations, but i like to do things perfect.
since his list of invites is bigger than mine i was wondering to put his name first.
wat should i do?
His parents are paying for the food & drinks and mine gonna do decor, appetizers,cake, favors, some drinks, some food.
i dont want to be selfish cuz i love him soooo much, and the pple i'm invitin are jus my neighbours and my parents friends, so its jus a few. should i put his name first? or that might be not traditional? i need to confirm today with the printery and i'm so confused. need sum help fast.
thanks.
J

twilight.rose · August 2010

Traditionally, the bride's name appears first.

You have numerous options for wording. A couple of "standard" wordings are:
"Bride
and
Groom
Together With Their Parents"

or

"Mr. and Mrs. Bride's Parents Request the Honor of Your Presence at the Marriage of Their Daughter
Bride
to
Groom (at this point, you could include "son of Mr. and Mrs. Groom's Parents" if you choose.)"

Also, I'm sure your printer will have ideas if you talk to them.

msdizzy4u · August 2010

Traditonally the brides name goes first. My FI asked why I was first... and told him it's polite and ettiquette... Lady's first!

His parents are divorced. Mine are together. It was too hard to put parents names on ours. Traditionally if the bride's parents are paying for everything, then they request the honor of your presence in the marriage of their daughter _______ to ________. My parents are paying for everything and what they aren't, we are picking up the rest. His are not contributing. I decided a nice way to include our families without stepping on toes was to do the following:

Together with their parents,
(Bride) and (Groom)
invite you to share with them
a celebration of love.

Et cetera.....

Hope that helps!

silverart · August 2010

thanks. we were both puttin our names, and den saying together with our parents (list their names).
the only prob was that his list of invites was longer dan mine so wen he goes out to give invites, his name would be first. well printery called me to confirm , so i changed it and put my name infront instead. our wedding card style allows for names to be in front cover of the card, so i put his name first, and inside i put my name first.

msdizzy4u · August 2010

Sounds like an awesome solution!

kristinanddan · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_brides-grooms-name-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:9b9894d3-705a-4889-8ac4-23e6b334242aPost:e14028a2-34d1-4ba8-b197-bf713b7eac2e">Re: Bride's or Groom's name first? Help!</a>:
[QUOTE]thanks. we were both puttin our names, and den saying together with our parents (list their names). the only prob was that his list of invites was longer dan mine so wen he goes out to give invites, his name would be first. well printery called me to confirm , so i changed it and put my name infront instead. our wedding card style allows for names to be in front cover of the card, so i put his name first, and inside i put my name first.
Posted by silverart[/QUOTE]

I'm sorry but this just made my eyes bleed. You mean putting, then, than, and when

hz80408 · August 2010

thank you PP!!!

silverart · August 2010

PLEASE people, don't be criticizing and making a big issue out of nothing. Broken english, people do this all the time. Don't tell me you're perfect and you don't shorten your sentences especially when you're in a hurry.
I asked for some feedback concerning invites. I didn't ask for your advice int he english language.

dwest2201 · August 2010

When I read "den" my might went right to "an den, AN DEN AND DEN AND DEN!" from "Dude where's my car" (right?)... anyone else with me on that???

Anyways, FI and I will be using

Together with their parents

My name
and
FI's name

request the honor of your presence... yada, yada.

ETA: Oh yeah, and the bride should be listed first regardless of who is paying or who has a larger number of invites.

banana468 · August 2010

OP, I'll agree that it's not nice to criticize. However please understand that when you type in broken English that it becomes very difficult to read. There are certain abbreviations that are understood on the boards but when you intentionally type words into abbreviations that are not the standard use, it becomes a more difficult process to interpret.

JanoBean75 · August 2010

when the correct spelling of a word is only one letter longer, does it really save time to type the incorrect version?

OP, did you order a proof?

kristinanddan · August 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_invites-paper_brides-grooms-name-first?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:cd062f89-8272-496a-b0ab-225e1f87acecDiscussion:9b9894d3-705a-4889-8ac4-23e6b334242aPost:41fa3820-a405-438f-a33e-31a2c1f8ce1e">Re: Bride's or Groom's name first? Help!</a>:
[QUOTE]PLEASE people, don't be criticizing and making a big issue out of nothing. Broken english, people do this all the time. Don't tell me you're perfect and you don't shorten your sentences especially when you're in a hurry. I asked for some feedback concerning invites. I didn't ask for your advice int he english language.
Posted by silverart[/QUOTE]

I wasn't trying to criticize, but it's hard to read the words 'den' and 'dan' and know that it means 'then' and 'than'. I certainly am not perfect, especially when typing quickly, but I certainly keep the English language intact. I can't even stand to abbreviate when texting.

To your question: the bride's name always goes first.

msdizzy4u · August 2010

Wow... I'm a future English teacher and I overlooked the shortened words or slang or whatever reason it was used. I thought these message boards were here to bounce ideas off one another and to get help with our wedding, not to educate in grammar. Some people are not educated as well or can't type OR just don't want to spell out words. Help with the questions asked and leave the lecture for your children.

HKD817 · August 2010

Bride first

silverart · August 2010

i agree, this message board is just to help give advice for soon to be brides and grooms. really. leave the lectures for your kids.
thanks

banana468 · August 2010

You're absolutely right that this is a forum to give advice.

And while I agree that others could have phrased their concerns in a better way, the advice to phrase any post in a way that it will be easy for others to read is sound.

Things like a long block of text with no paragraphs, intentional broken English or the use of abbreviations that are not widely accepted make your post something that is harder to understand.

When you create the OP of a thread, you're requesting feedback. Please do your best to phrase it in a way that it will be widely understood by others. There may be people who don't respond to a thread simply because of how it was phrased.

silverart · August 2010

steups. would everyone please stop responding to the issue of the broken language and shortened spelling of words? you all have nothing better to do with your time?
thanks to all those who positively contributed to my questions of whether the bride or groom come first.

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