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Rant: Anyone else dealing with this?

AmberBride1AmberBride1
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I selected 3 hotels for our guests that will be walking distance to our ceremony/reception location (many OOT invited) and negotiated rates UNDER $100 per night. Also, I negotiated a free room upgrade for the parents of the bride & groom, at the hotel that is right across the street from our venue. The groom's parents opted to stay somewhere else- on the west side. Should I be upset that they didn't pick the places we had worked so hard negotiating and setting up rooms, sending all the hotel info, and updating the wedding website? Should I feel obligated to figure out how to pay for their parking at our venue? The valet costs $9, I was not planning on paying for people to valet since everyone should be staying walking distance anyways. Also, his brother is too busy to attend (has plans to go hunting) and his sister will not be attending despite living only 2 hours away. What am I marrying in to??
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Re: Rant: Anyone else dealing with this?

  • JKohioJKohio member
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    edited December 2011
    What are the parents' reasons for staying on the west side? Friends/family in that area? Were those plans in place before you did your 'negotiations', but you found out later? Do they know that you made extra effort for the upgrade? If they are for sure staying at the west side locale, I'd go ahead and pay for their valet. $9 is not much in the grand scheme of things and it's only one valet (or two if they are divorced?) cost. Chump change compared to the cost of putting on a wedding. LOL.Just curious what you are doing about elderly guests who may not be able to walk far (or don't you have any that will be attending)?How close is your FI's brother to him? Was the hunting trip already arranged before you set your date? Is it an in state trip? How close is the sister to your FI? Does the sister have a family w/ small children or some other reason that a 2 hour trip wouldn't work? I don't know if you should be upset or not at the situation. I guess it all depends on their reasoning for their actions, and a lot of background that I don't know.
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  • golf*bridegolf*bride member
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    edited December 2011
    As far as the valet, I'd go ahead and pay ahead of time.... some people may not stay overnight, right?  Or even if they stay, they may end up driving over.
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  • jwolfbergjwolfberg member
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    edited December 2011
    You may want to have a serious talk w/ FI about why his siblings are not interested in attending.   There could be some deep routed issues that are keeping them away (not saying they are, or they could just be selfish).   As far as the valet I would just pay it, but I would ask FI if there is a reason they dont want to stay w/ every one else.  
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