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Save the Date invitee regrets anyone?

psmith1216psmith1216 member
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I sent out my save the dates and at the time we were creating the invite list, I decided to add a few work people who are in my area and always ask about the wedding.  In reality - there are only two of them I wanted to invite but thought it would be in poor taste to ignore the others in case word got around.  The more I think about it (and of course it seems they are more annoying then ever lately) - the more I wish wish I didn't send them save the dates!  Is anyone else having regrets for people they sent save the dates to?  I'm guessing I still have to send them an invite right?
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Re: Save the Date invitee regrets anyone?

  • brendamanbrendaman
    10 Comments
    edited December 2011
    Yes, anyone who has received a Save-the-Date (STD)should receive an invite.  We have some people who have already told us they "probably" won't be able to come to our wedding (she's pregnant and due the week of our wedding), but I'm still sending them an invite, just in case.I haven't sent out any STDs for work people, and now you're giving me pause.  I still don't know what to do as we can't invite everyone.  And I"m not going to send out anymore STDs, because I don't want STD regret.
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  • CrissyHCrissyH
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    edited December 2011
    We haven't sent out STD's yet, but do plan too.   I am only going to send them to our OOT guests that will need to make travel plans.  All of my close-in relatives have been told the date, and my co-workers have been led to believe the wedding will be small/family only.   I will probably end up inviting a few, but not sending them std's or even mentioning it to them until the invites go out.
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  • spuliaficospuliafico member
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    edited December 2011
    I haven't sent mine out either...but I already regret half the people I'm inviting...lol
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  • razdazzlerazdazzle member
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    edited December 2011
    We are only sending STD's to out of town guests that we are for sure inviting...I do have some regrets about people we invited to the engagement party Fi's parents threw for us after we got engaged.  We are now stuck inviting them to the wedding...
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  • polkadotbride1polkadotbride1 member
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    edited December 2011
    yea I had a few that I wish I had of thought about before hand bc I couldnt take it back when the wedding invites needed to go out. A lot changes over 8 months and unfortunatly for us a few of them still wanted the free food and booze! haha. maybe you will luck out and they wont come!
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  • scoettoscoetto member
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    edited December 2011
    Yes. There were about 30 people who got STDs that did NOT get invites. Instead of an invite, I wrote them a letter explaining why we were cutting the guest list. We were also prepared to lose them as "friends" and cut them out of our lives. Does that sound harsh? It sure as hell was! But these people were friends from the bar that we stopped going to when J decided he wanted to live a sober life. And also J had a death in the family a month before the invites went out and we decided we wanted to do a smaller, family gathering instead of a huge party. To give the family time to heal. So yeah. It all depends on the circumstances and we don't regret NOT inviting them at all.
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