meegz85

blackfire5th · November 2009

Why on earth did you delete? I would really like to know what upset you so.

tidetravel · November 2009

It was probably me. Since she was so "unimpressed" with her BM's up until this point, I figured that I would give her some pointers on how to avoid future disappointment over the next 18 months.Guess she didn't like hearing it.

blackfire5th · November 2009

I don't know Tide, she did specify that she wasn't a bridezilla...

tidetravel · November 2009

Yeah... because saying "I'm not a bridezilla, but I'm really unimpressed w/ my BM 18 months out from my wedding" holds about as much water as saying "I'm not a racist - I have black friends."

megk8oz · November 2009

Ok, clearly, I missed something in the 45 minutes I was on lunch. Now, see? In another week or so I won't have to be asking people to fill me in, lol.

tidetravel · November 2009

Meg - poster specified that she wasn't a bridezilla, but wanted to know how she could tell her BM that she was "unimpressed" with her performance so far. Apparently, she hasn't returned or replyed to ANY emails about the wedding/engagement party/ etc. And she KNOWS she receieved these emails because BM's on FB all the time.She was told to pick up a phone.

bablingbrooke · November 2009

I wonder if these girls ever think it might be more than a coincidence that they send out 100 emails about the wedding and friends stop replying to them? Like maybe your wedding obsession is turning off your friends? Nah, couldn't be.

tidetravel · November 2009

A gift for you blackfire - this one's a doozy. http://community.thenest.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/25868780.aspx

bablingbrooke · November 2009

^ So bridezillaness can't always be cured by a wedding, huh?

megk8oz · November 2009

Well, Tide, of COURSE she isn't a bridezilla. Bridezillas are mean, control-freaks that think their friends are just jealous of how awesome they are. This girl just wants to micromanage every moment of her BMs lives between now and her wedding a year and a 1/2 from now. Her friends should know that the moment you agree to be a BM, you are legally and morally bound to be the bride's slave from that moment until the day after the wedding. Clearly, she's well within her rights as a bride right now.

tidetravel · November 2009

No Stage - that was this week. Brooke - I have no idea what's going on with that chick. Seriously. Bridezilla to the "nth" power.

megk8oz · November 2009

Omg, I was reading that one from the nest last night. Somebody operates on a completely different plane of existence from the rest of us.

tidetravel · November 2009

Same basic question - different poster. And, since previous one was DDed, we had to answer it... again.

bablingbrooke · November 2009

Well I love how that chick has taken a couple undergrad psych courses and now believes she's an expert that can diagnose how "seriously disturbed" her friend is is...for having the nerve to get engaged before her wedding was over. Right, taking Psych 101 and Psych 103 totally makes you an expert on this sort of thing. But of course it's not about the title at all!

tidetravel · November 2009

HAHA Brooke - I thought that too. I took Psych 101 - can I get a prescription pad, please.

megk8oz · November 2009

It's not about the title. I just had to twist her arm to make sure she'd give it to me. Yes, and you're FRIEND is the one who is pathological and has no sense of reality.

bablingbrooke · November 2009

I didn't read your original post but having read hundreds like it I can guess what happened: -Your upset your BM doesn't return your calls or emails. -Most of those were about the wedding. -You are well over a year away from your wedding and the BM is not excited. -You may be toying with the idea of kicking her out. -You were told that no one is as excited about your wedding as you are, that you should hold off on talking about the wedding (which again is a long way away) and that the BM may have been turned off by wedding talk. -You deleted because no one told you "poor baby, your BM is so mean and unsupportive. Boot her ungrateful arse out of your special day!" If I got any of the above wrong, please feel free to correct me.

Leah&Christian09 · November 2009

–“why on earth do you expect htem to be excited this far in advance?” “why did you discuss your guestlist with her?”This is actually really great advice. So is "call your friend." Just because the advice wasn't what you were expecting doesn't make it bad. But if you aren't willing to change your ways, you'll still be stuck in the same place you are, and it will just get worse. If you want to screw up relationships over your wedding, that's your right.

lalap69 · November 2009

I'm just annoyed that I hardly ever comment on posts and then it goes and gets deleted.

tidetravel · November 2009

. If you actually read my question you would see that I wanted to call her to go out for coffee, not to talk about weddingI DID read your post and no where did it say anything about you wanting to call her and go out for coffee. Which is why you got approximately 6 replies telling you that is EXACTLY what you needed to do.Welcome to the wonderful world of message boards. You can't dictate what responses you get. You weren't being attacked. You did get advice. It just wasn't the validation that you wanted to hear.

lalap69 · November 2009

Meegz85 -I asked why you discussed your guest list with her. It was a serious question. I can't think of a single reason to discuss my guest list with anyone other than my FI and our parents. Instead of getting pissy that you didn't like what we had to say, maybe you could consider what we're saying and reconsider your own position. You have a problem - problems have sources. Sometimes the source is you. If you want to fix the problem, you have to deal with it.

jeannigirl · November 2009

meegz85: I believe you got some great advice that you needed to call and talk with her has a friend and find out what was going on. So because you weren't given the advice or the poor me you DD. You did come on and vent and such and you will get people who will respond in many different ways. Noone can dictiate and tell people how to respond or not to respond if their are not in agreement with you. I hope that you can see the bottom line and understand what people were trying to help you see.

rainedrop6 · November 2009

Meegz85, I'm so glad you came back on. I tried to post my response earlier but the thread was deleted by the time I finished. I would try and give your friend a call. If she doesn't answer, leave her a message telling her how you are feeling. It could be that she's upset with you for some reason but it's also possible that it's nothing at all. Either way if she's your good friend, I'm sure she would either want to work it out or clear up the misundersatnding. Back in the beginning of April, I thought my sister was avoiding me (she actually WAS avoiding) and I didn't understand why. For about a week she wouldn't return any of my calls, didn't go on FB, and only responed to text with short one word answers. I even told FI that I thought she was neglecting me. It turned out the SIS/BIL/FI were conspiring together to have my Sis and BIL come down to NC from OH because FI was proposing and he wanted them to surprise me after. Ends up my sister was terrified all week she would slip up and ruin the surprise if she talked to me in person so she avoided me at all costs. It made sense after I knew but I was certain she was upset with me before I found out. Maybe your girls have something special planned for the near future and your friend is afraid she'll slip or maybe she's really overwhelmed with work. I know you had said she's already married so maybe she's feeling down that her wedding is over, maybe she's jealous if you have a bigger budget than she did, or maybe she's not upset with you at all. I would definitely give it a couple days and if you haven't heard from her, give her a call. It's probably something a simple conversation can quickly clear up.

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