Hi,My FMOL was talking to my fh today. She mentioned all the friends that she wants to invite to the wedding. He pointed out that the chapel is too small to get all of the people who mean something to us and all of her old friends into. She then asked if we really knew that many people. He pointed out that many of them have kids and she asked that we request to our guests to make this an adult only service. I know that happens, but I have kids from ages 2-14 in my wedding: Jr. Bridesmaid, 2 candle lighters, flower girl, ring barrer...if these kids are allowed to come, how can I ask that others leave their children at home?? Espeically since most are coming out of town, and have very young children (as in one was born two days ago)...Can we just tell his mom we have to allow kids and she can't invite all the couples she wants to catch up with? She has seen the chapel, and how small it is. I have already included the pastor and other key people (piano player and mutual friends) in my 60 people so he can get as many guests as he can think of (and allow for his mom) in his 60 (the chapel only holds 120 at maximum capacity so that includes us). I am a very child oriented person, I am a teacher, a clown, a social worker with youth. The kids in my family mean to much too me to exclude them...plus they all already know they are in the wedding. It would not be my special day without being surrounded by all of my loved ones...including the kids. How do we let mom know that she can't invite all of her old cronies so she has someone to sit with at the reception? Thanks so much for all your help.