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Reception booking vent (long)

I am sorry in advance for the length! We just returned from looking at reception halls a couple of hours ago, and my blood is boiling. I haven't posted on here much (still new) so I hope no one minds me speaking my mind. People annoy me! We are close to booking, and the last lady just got under my skin. I loved the place, but I could not let this woman be near me on my wedding day. My Fi and I were discussing our guest list with her and our budget and she started asking me what I deemed to be pretty personal questions about our finances. In my opinion, if I hand you the check, you shouldn't ask me who footed the bill. Let me recap a snippet of our convo... Lady: So guys, which set of parents is footing this bill? Me: Actually we have money set aside to pay for this, so we are footing the bill. Lady: You guys must be rolling in the dough. What do you do? Me: Actually, we have a budget set, but the money was set aside years ago by my grandmother and put into a savings account. ( Really, do I have to share this with you???) Lady: Well then, you can milk Mommy and Daddy for some money and make your budget bigger. Girl, this is your day, THEY OWE YOU THIS. Fi: Actually, we prefer to stay in the budget and not bother our parents with this. Lady (To Fi): Well since she has the big stuff covered, what are YOUR parents doing to help. You know, they should be paying for your honeymoon. ME: We haven't discussed this with his parents and we don't plan on bringing it up. We are prepared to pay for our honeymoon ourselves. Lady: But honey, don't you want your honeymoon to be fabulous, you should at least register and let your guests pay for it. You don't need to be paying for stuff like that. Me: Oh look at the time, sorry we have to cut this short. BYE I really wanted to scream by the time we left this place. She was the person that actually lets people believe that this is proper etiquette. Its not. It’s rude, and she was rude. We have a sizeable but not extravagant budget, and I don't think it was any of her business to tell us whom of our families should pay for OUR wedding. I don't even know what kind of response I want for this, just maybe to know that normal people do not think like this. GRRRR...
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Re: Reception booking vent (long)

  • I would complain to the owner.  She is disgusting.
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  • You have great strength to have left her with her teeth intact.
  • She sounds waaay too pushy and in your business. If you guys book there, I would see if there's any way to stipulate that all your dealings with the venue are with someone other than her.



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  • People are ridiculous.  I'd be furious and in no way would I be booking my event there.  And, I would tell her manager that she ran me off.
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  • Can you work with her supervisor? It'll suck if you have to go through her for the venue. My venue guy sucked azz and seriously jacked up the wedding. It was so stressful! See if you can use someone else from the venue as your point of contact.
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  • Jinx curly!Also, it's vendors like this who perpetuate Entitled Bride Syndrome, and then they end up posting on here and getting yelled at for being pretty princesses. It's a vicious cycle.



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    "cool......insult my size 2 body or my natural brown hair...or the fact that my parents own a country club, I have no budget for a wedding, and I have horses. I really dont care. Its better then having roots." ~ futurepivko
  • Thank goodness that I loved another venue a little more than that one, and I think it will be the one we are choosing. The coordinator there was an absolute peach. I might report her, I just was flabbergasted at how entitled she sounded. I wonder how many impressionable brides she influences. I get that she was trying to up how much I would spend, although we weren’t looking at the bare bones package, but still. This is probably why you guys get so many posts of people who think things like that are good ideas. ( I have read some, they are entertaining.) My friends thought I was overreacting, but I think I just had to put this out to people that seemed like they understood.
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  • No wayyyy! Don't use her! Seriously. My dude never checked his email, so the configuration was all wrong I was running around in sweats trying to find small tables for the gifts/memory table/guest book etc. He swore up and down we chose a limited bar, I printed out the email and gave it to him before he would go hunt down the liquor. He NEVER answered his voicemails or emails. It was awful. Never use a bad venue coordinator! You'll regret it!
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  • Oh I plan to never deal with her again. Sorry, but I like my sanity!
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  • Maybe she had had a long day dealing with terrible brides? This is disgusting.
  • I would talk to someone about her behaviour w/ potential clients. I would defintely not take my business to this venue.
  • I'd make a call to the owner.  Just say that you need to let them know one of the main reasons WHY you are choosing not to use their establishment.He needs to teach her about what is and isn't appropriate customer service.
  • Wow, she's a terrible sales person!  I would definitely let managment know, she is costing them business.
  • WHAT?My responses would include "No, that would be rude," and "We're adults, we can pay our own bills." And possible, "DEUCES!"
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  • WOW! Definitely talk to the manager or owner. She doesn't need to be saying things like that.
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