Can I have my wedding over a Holiday weekend?

Jessii266 · November 2009

Is it tacky to get married over a holiday weekend. For example, would you go to a wedding on Saturday July 3rd? What if it was out of town?????

niffycat · November 2009

With enough notice, I would be willing to go to a wedding over a holiday weekend. I would recommend sending out STD's as soon as possible though, as many people make plans far in advance for holiday weekends.

betrothed123 · November 2009

You can do it, but depending on your crowd, be prepared to have very few guests. Travel costs tend to be much higher during holidays, and many people will already have plans.

ricksang · November 2009

We got married on Halloween out of town

notquiteblushing · November 2009

I went to a wedding this year on Friday the 3rd oot. The couple did send out STDs a full year ahead of time but it was still annoying because I had just started a new job and had to ask for time off but since you're getting married on a Saturday I would be less annoyed. In general I don't like holiday weekend weddings but if we're close I would suck it up.

tidetravel · November 2009

A lot of people do, but there are some things to consider before doing so:1) travel and hotel costs tend to be much higher on holiday weekends2) depending on the holiday, many people have long standing traditions/plans that they would have to break in order to attend the wedding.3) Many people have off on federal holidays, but many people don't - so assuming that guests have an extra day off to travel may or may not be accurate.

mynameskatie · November 2009

It isn't tacky but I probably wouldn't attend if I was an OOT guest. It might seem convenient with extra days off work and such but people generally don't enjoy giving up their holiday weekends especially with the cost of travel. That said the people most important to you will still probably want to be there so be considerate and give them plenty of advance notice.

mocha beans · November 2009

Holidays can be very polarizing. Either you'll have lots of guests, because people may have extra time off, or you'll have very few guests, because people will have plans already. Beware that prices may be higher for things like food and photographers and venues and whatnot.

Mrs.C-To-Be · November 2009

Eh, I don't see the big deal. I have a friend getting married on Labor Day weekend, and there haven't been any problems thus far. I say go for it. However, I would agree with PP that if they aren't close to you or FI, then don't be hurt if OOT's choose to not come due to traveling expenses during the holidays.

bellebride116 · November 2009

Holiday weekend weddings are awesome. We went to one that was a destination wedding. It was great because FI was able to take a few extra days off since his company was already giving him that monday off due to the holiday. Since we extended our trip and weren't traveling RIGHT on the holiday or the day before/after the prices were the same. The couple sent out their STD's early so everyone was able to plan ahead and it worked out really well! We actually loved it so much we are also doing a destination wedding over MLK weekend!

Loopyseven · November 2009

My brother is getting married July 3 next summer. I don't think it's a big deal, and haven't heard any of the family saying anything about it. I'm hoping our company holiday is Friday and not Monday but I don't think the holiday list is out yet. The only thing I'm secretly a teeny bit salty about is that if I have to use vacation time to go home for his wedding, that's one or two less days I have available for my honeymoon in September

. But that's not a big deal in the scheme of things and it would never actually come out of my mouth.

Leah&Christian09 · November 2009

Not tacky, but could be a PITA. Talk to your family to figure out what to expect. For example, we got married over Memorial Day weekend, and we are about 400 miles from most family. Most of my family doesn't have standing plans for that weekend, and to travel they would drive, so travel wasn't any more taxing or expensive than it otherwise would have been. Therefore, it worked great. Had we chosen July 4th, no one would have come b/c of standing plans. Think about travel to your location on that holiday, and what most of your family will be doing. Ask around. It could work great.

kmmssg · November 2009

I'm with mocha - I think you will have a great turn out OR very low numbers but not much in between. Seriously though - you need to not worry about what any of us say here, and start asking the "non-negotiables" if it will work for them. Those are the people you really want to be there like really close friends, close family, etc. You also need to ask them to be brutally honest about it, and remind them that flights and hotels are more expensive at that time. People will look at you and say "sounds great!" but 8 months later when they figure out how much it is really going to cost them to attend, they decline. Set up a worst case scenario, ask everyone to be brutally honest and listen to what they have to say. Brides come on here all the time and say - everyone said it was a great idea, or no one told us they would have a problem with it, etc. Well of course they didn't. People don't tell the couple when there is a problem, they grumble amongst themselves so they don't hurt feelings. In my DH's family where he is one of 7 siblings, almost everyone has standing vacay plans or holiday plans between Memorial Day and Labor Day. We know that when one of our girls is planning a wedding holidays are out if we hope to have the family there. We know they have standing plans and we wouldn't dream of being rude enough to horn in on those. If you get brutally honest feedback from the non-negotiables and they are good with it then this is a good idea. If they are really honest with you and seem hesitant, I would rethink your plan. Personally, we don't attend weddings when we have to travel if we have to deal with holiday airfares and hotel rates. We decline and send a really nice gift.

Karen's MOH · November 2009

I'm going to jump on the bandwagon and say you need to consider how far most of your guests are travelling. If it will be mostly local, people will deal, generally. But I went to a wedding over New Year's where about 2/3 of the guest had a 2 or 3 hour flight, and to be honest, it sucked. It would have been $200 cheaper to fly down if it was the next weekend. If I didn't need to fly, I wouldn't have cared at all. One other thing-- even though I generally don't think you need to invite everyone with a guest, I think on a holiday you really should at least invite anyone who is dating someone. But that's my opinion.

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