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MadTownBride2BMadTownBride2B
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My FI and I are working on our guest list right now and I think I need a glass of wine because it's giving me a headache!For my single friends who would know a lot of invited guests (ex. friends from my college rowing team) do I need to add "and guest"?I would love to give everyone a plus one, but our guest list is becoming too big for our venue.Thoughts?Thanks!
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    You HAVE to invite anyone married, engaged, living with the partner or in a long term relationship with that partner as a social unit.However since your wedding is more than six months away, I'd add a fudge factor in there of some extras for the very much single guests since they COULD be in a LTR by the time you send invitations.
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  • Mrs.B6302007Mrs.B6302007 member
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    Ditto banana.It's really easy to just include an and guest for everyone. Then no one gets left out and your headache disappears.
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  • Mrs.B6302007Mrs.B6302007 member
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    after adjustments in your guest list
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  • MadTownBride2BMadTownBride2B
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    Thanks for the responses!Yes, right now I have everyone who is married, engaged, or in a LTR with their significant other.We're hoping to send out STDs soon because a lot of people will be coming from out of town. Do you think I could not add "and guest" on the STD for my single friends, then add one for the invitations if they enter a LTR?Sorry if that last question is confusing...
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  • TheSaltyPeanutTheSaltyPeanut member
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    There is no need to write "and guest" to a save the date.
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  • tlv204tlv204 member
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    Ditto salty, I hope that's ok, because it's what we did. For people we weren't sure about, we just put their name on the save the date, then added and guest or their significant other's name  on the actual invitation. IMO you don't have to decide right now about that part, but it would definitely be good to leave room in the list for dates if you can. You never know who could be married by then :)
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  • banana468banana468 member
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    Since it sounds like you may not be sure, just invite the person.FWIW, I think if you're going to invite the person with a guest then you need to indicate that on the STD. 
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  • Mrs.B6302007Mrs.B6302007 member
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    Yeah, you're okay just having a single guest's name on the STD.  Even though the STD is a guaranteed invite, they can get their official "and guest" on the invite.
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  • ScarletGemScarletGem
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    The only people who got "and guest"ed for our wedding were the single wedding party members.  Anyone who was married, engaged, dating, whatever was invited with their SO by name. 
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  • MadTownBride2BMadTownBride2B
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    Waiting for the invitations to add "and guest" makes sense and it makes planning the STDs a lot easier. Thanks for the suggestion.btw Scarlet, I am inviting significant others by name...that's important to me too because I have been a "significant other" for awhile now :)
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  • ScarletGemScarletGem
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    Good job, MadTown.  I've been invited as DH's "and guest" a number of times.  It annoys me every time because I have known the inviters (is that a word?) for many years, but apparently since they're closer with DH, I lose my name. 
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  • Lyss5782Lyss5782
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    Thanks for asking this...(and for those who answered!) Im getting ready to send my STDs (HATE that acronym!) and was wondering the same thing....
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  • Bethand KeithBethand Keith
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    I found a really nice save the date  e-card (I don't like the STD thing either :)I e-mailed them out, no addressing required. The one's i used also had a link that had the guest fill in their name, guest and their address so I now have a ready made mailing list for invitations. Only one draw back, sometimes cards like that automatically go to junk mail, thankfully that did not happen with me.Good luck !!
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  • Pirata13Pirata13
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    Our single friends, relatives and co-workers are not getting a +1, we just don't have room. They all know enough people to have a good time without. Now if I had an OOT friend who knew no one else, I'd obviously +1 him/her so they'd feel more comfortable.  A co-worker recently got married and also did not +1 anyone who isn't in a relationship. She had to tell at least 3 people who responded yes with a guest that they could not add someone.  They all still went solo anyway, so it was fine.
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