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Bridal Shower Invite Question

ajohnson151ajohnson151
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I am in a small graduate school and will be getting married the summer after graduation. My wedding is about 3 hours from school, and many hours from where many of my classmates will be living. A friend at school insists on having a bridal shower for me at school to include mostly school friends. I am appreciative, but the problem is that my wedding will have 50 people max, and I know I can't invite practically any of the people that will be invited to the shower. What should I do? I thought about having an engagement/pre-wedding party before I graduate. Will this make up for not getting a wedding invite? Is this situation an exception to the rule of only inviting people who are invited to the wedding, like a shower by co-works? Help!
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Re: Bridal Shower Invite Question

  • charlsie26charlsie26
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    i would say thank you for the offer, but it's not nessesry to throw me a party.
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  • panda&squishypanda&squishy member
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    Ditto charlsie
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  • Leah&Christian09Leah&Christian09 member
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    Nope not an exception.  Politely decline the shower.  People not invited to the wedding shouldn't be invited to an engagement party either, so that won't help.
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  • betrothed123betrothed123
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    Ditto PPs.  Politely decline the shower.
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  • SummerBoston10SummerBoston10
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    Emily Post would disagree.  It is acceptable for co-workers not invited to your wedding to throw you a shower so why would this be much different?  I don't think that it is that big of a deal.  These people would be having the shower for you because they want to, not because they are expecting a wedding invite in return.  Plus, I would think that they must know that you are planning a very small wedding.  Do you think they would actually expect an invite if you are only have 50 people there?  People generally know where they stand in your group of friends and probably assume they aren't invited already. 
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